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The Single Scene Column©

By Kelly Leary©, Founder of Revolution Dating                  if you have crossed the line? If you are doing anything      	 Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t
                                                               you would not want your partner knowing about (when it       introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t
Decoding the New Dating                                        comes to dating or flirting) like texting inappropriately,   post anything about you on social media. Basically,
                                                               sending photos or sharing intimate feelings with anyone      you’re their secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they
Language                                                       other than your “exclusive” partner, then you are micro-     feel justified in “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending
                                                               cheating.                                                    nothing is going on to the outside world, and keeping
	 The Love Business is                                         	 Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies           their options open. If they proclaim you as their romantic
booming with new couples                                       quickly. You feel someone fell madly in love with you        interest, they will have to give up their search.
and engagements. I can’t                                       but they have never met you or you met briefly. In this      	 Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your
count how many dynamic                                         case you definitely should think twice. Why is he or she     new partner about whether you are in an exclusive
duos are enjoying the                                          falling so fast and they barely know you? How many           relationship, you are at risk of being “benched.” Like
fireworks together all                                         times have they done this before?                            the sports term, where players are left on the bench as
summer long because of us.                                     	 Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a             reserves, you might find yourself being someone’s back-
Summertime is the kick-off                                     relationship by pretending to be someone else online         up option as they continue to look around. They may
of Cuffing Season, the time                                    or has greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often     come back to you if nobody better comes along, but that
when finding a girlfriend                                      steal photos from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes         doesn’t give one high hopes for the relationship, does it?
or boyfriend becomes                                           even create multiple personas to make their stories more     	 Today, more than ever, I realize why this club has
even more appealing as                                         believable. They will try to continue a “fake” relationship  become so popular among our members who are too smart
the countdown to the big                                       for months--always avoiding a face-to-face meeting.          for the shark tank. If you are someone who has resisted
holidays is officially in                                      	 Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing                  dating because of all of the above, I don’t blame you.
motion.                                                        vanishes without a trace. You could have been dating a       BUT you do have to stand up for what you want at some
	 As your leader of love, I have decided to bring you up to    few days, or months, but one day they simply disappear.      point and take a strong calculated risk. Not everyone is
date on some new “terms” being used by singles today. The      They don’t return your texts, and may even block you         obsessed with his or her screens! Not everyone would
old-fashioned meeting through introduction by a friend is      to avoid having the break-up conversation with you. It’s     risk his or her safety, money or sanity on internet dating
the best way to go...and that is what we recreate at my club.  cowardly, but sadly common, especially with a vast array     or blind flirting. You don’t have to either. Don’t think of
So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next chapter of        of dating apps at our fingertips.                            what you have to lose today, think of what you have to
your life. Knowledge is power. The power of love knows         	 Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may        gain. Be confident, smart, and carry on my friend! It’s
no boundaries but first we must know who we are dating         resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they   time you start dating smart too. You got this--and so do
and what goes on “Behind the Screens!” (Yikes). Online         disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened,       we!
daters beware...and social media lovers...heed my advice!      like a revived corpse.                                       	 Let’s claim some internet-independence!
It’s just too easy to get into trouble if you are dating via   	 Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles
the internet in any way. In this day and age, dating begins    finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone,                                                                       XOXO,
and ends with our smart phones…Time To Get Smarter.            anyone can be anyone. False confidence abounds and                                                                           Kelly
Learn the Dating Dictionary, circa 2018:                       many just feel they can jump to the next in an instant...
	 Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact            and guess what? They can. This is a weak testimony to        	 Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a
with another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond         a real man or woman who is looking to date sincerely as      master’s degree in psychology and 27 successful years
emotional infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an        a romantic goal. If you feel you are in this trap, get out   in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as
electronic device in one way or another. How do you know       quickly.                                                     THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC
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