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The Single Scene Column©

By Kelly Leary©, Founder of Revolution Dating                     You feel someone fell madly in love with you but they have       comes along, but that doesn’t give one high hopes for the
                                                                  never met you or you met briefly. In this case you definitely    relationship, does it?
Decoding the New Dating                                           should think twice. Why is he or she falling so fast and they    	 Today, more than ever, I realize why this club has become
                                                                  barely know you? How many times have they done this              so popular among our members who are too smart for the
Language                                                          before?                                                          shark tank. If you are someone who has resisted dating
                                                                  	 Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a                 because of all of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT you do
	 The Love Business is                                            relationship by pretending to be someone else online or has      have to stand up for what you want at some point and take a
booming with new couples                                          greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often steal photos   strong calculated risk. Not everyone is obsessed with his or
and engagements. I can’t                                          from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes even create multiple     her screens! Not everyone would risk his or her safety, money
count how many dynamic                                            personas to make their stories more believable. They will try    or sanity on internet dating or blind flirting. You don’t have
duos are enjoying the                                             to continue a “fake” relationship for months--always avoiding    to either. Don’t think of what you have to lose today, think of
fireworks together all                                            a face-to-face meeting.                                          what you have to gain. Be confident, smart, and carry on my
summer long because of us.                                        	 Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes             friend! It’s time you start dating smart too. You got this--and
Summertime is the kick-off                                        without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, or       so do we!
of Cuffing Season, the time                                                                                                        	 Let’s claim some internet-independence!
when finding a girlfriend or                                      months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t return
boyfriend becomes even more                                       your texts, and may even block you to avoid having the break-                                                                  XOXO,
appealing as the countdown to                                     up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but sadly common,                                                                        Kelly
the big holidays is officially in                                 especially with a vast array of dating apps at our fingertips.
motion.                                                           	 Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may            	 Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a master’s
	 As your leader of love, I have decided to bring you up to       resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they       degree in psychology and 27 successful years in the dating
date on some new “terms” being used by singles today. The         disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened, like      industry. A top matchmaker, now known as THE Florida
old-fashioned meeting through introduction by a friend is         a revived corpse.                                                Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC News, The Palm
the best way to go...and that is what we recreate at my club.     	 Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles       Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, The South Florida
So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next chapter of           finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, anyone      Business Journal, and numerous other media outlets. Please
your life. Knowledge is power. The power of love knows no         can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many just feel       call our hotlines seven days a week at 561-630-XOXO (9696)
boundaries but first we must know who we are dating and           they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess what? They   in the Palm Beaches and South Florida area or 772-932-
what goes on “Behind the Screens!” (Yikes). Online daters         can. This is a weak testimony to a real man or woman who is      HERE (4373) on the Treasure Coast. You may also visit our
beware...and social media lovers...heed my advice! It’s just      looking to date sincerely as a romantic goal. If you feel you    informational only website at All
too easy to get into trouble if you are dating via the internet   are in this trap, get out quickly.                               inquiries are confidential. Background checks are required.
in any way. In this day and age, dating begins and ends with      	 Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t                All applicants must be prescreened in person at our private
our smart phones…Time To Get Smarter.                             introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t post       practice to be eligible. This is NOT online dating.
Learn the Dating Dictionary, circa 2018:
	 Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with          anything about you on social media. Basically, you’re their
another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional       secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they feel justified in
infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device   “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending nothing is going on
in one way or another. How do you know if you have crossed        to the outside world, and keeping their options open. If they
the line? If you are doing anything you would not want your       proclaim you as their romantic interest, they will have to give
partner knowing about (when it comes to dating or flirting)
like texting inappropriately, sending photos or sharing intimate  up their search.
feelings with anyone other than your “exclusive” partner, then    	 Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new
you are micro-cheating.                                           partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship,
	 Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies quickly.       you are at risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term,
                                                                  where players are left on the bench as reserves, you might
                                                                  find yourself being someone’s back-up option as they continue
                                                                  to look around. They may come back to you if nobody better
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