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      The Single Scene Column                                           ©

      By Kelly Leary , Founder of Revolution Dating      if you have crossed the line? If you are doing anything     Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t
                                                         you would not want your partner knowing about (when it   introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t
      Decoding the New Dating                            comes to dating or flirting) like texting inappropriately,   post anything about you on social media. Basically,
      Language                                           sending photos or sharing intimate feelings with anyone   you’re their secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they
                                                                                                           feel justified in “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending
                                                         other than your “exclusive” partner, then you are micro-
                                                         cheating.                                         nothing is going on to the outside world, and keeping
        The Love Business is                               Love  Bombing: The  flame that  burns  too fast  dies   their options open. If they proclaim you as their romantic
      booming with new couples                           quickly. You feel someone fell madly in love with you   interest, they will have to give up their search.
      and engagements. I can’t                           but they have never met you or you met briefly. In this     Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your
      count how many dynamic                             case you definitely should think twice. Why is he or she   new partner about whether you are in an exclusive
      duos are enjoying the                              falling so fast and they barely know you? How many   relationship, you are at risk of being “benched.” Like
      fireworks together all                             times have they done this before?                 the sports term, where players are left on the bench as
      summer long because of us.                           Catfishing:  When a person lures someone into a   reserves, you might find yourself being someone’s back-
      Summertime is the kick-off                         relationship by pretending to be someone else online   up option as they continue to look around. They may
      of Cuffing Season, the time                        or has greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often   come back to you if nobody better comes along, but that
      when  finding  a  girlfriend                       steal photos from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes   doesn’t give one high hopes for the relationship, does it?
      or boyfriend becomes                               even create multiple personas to make their stories more     Today,  more  than  ever,  I  realize  why  this  club  has
      even more appealing as                             believable. They will try to continue a “fake” relationship   become so popular among our members who are too smart
      the countdown to the big                           for months--always avoiding a face-to-face meeting.   for the shark tank. If you are someone who has resisted
      holidays is officially in                            Ghosting:  When  someone  you’ve  been  seeing   dating because of all of the above, I don’t blame you.
      motion.                                            vanishes without a trace. You could have been dating a   BUT you do have to stand up for what you want at some
        As your leader of love, I have decided to bring you up to   few days, or months, but one day they simply disappear.   point and take a strong calculated risk. Not everyone is
      date on some new “terms” being used by singles today. The   They don’t return your texts, and may even block you   obsessed with his or her screens! Not everyone would
      old-fashioned meeting through introduction by a friend is   to avoid having the break-up conversation with you. It’s   risk his or her safety, money or sanity on internet dating
      the best way to go...and that is what we recreate at my club.   cowardly, but sadly common, especially with a vast array   or blind flirting. You don’t have to either. Don’t think of
      So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next chapter of   of dating apps at our fingertips.          what you have to lose today, think of what you have to
      your life. Knowledge is power. The power of love knows     Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may   gain. Be confident, smart, and carry on my friend! It’s
      no boundaries but first we must know who we are dating   resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they   time you start dating smart too. You got this--and so do
      and what goes on “Behind the Screens!” (Yikes). Online   disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened,   we!
      daters beware...and social media lovers...heed my advice!   like a revived corpse.                     Let’s claim some internet-independence!
      It’s just too easy to get into trouble if you are dating via     Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles                     XOXO,
      the internet in any way. In this day and age, dating begins   finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone,                              Kelly
      and ends with our smart phones…Time To Get Smarter.   anyone can be anyone. False confidence abounds and
      Learn the Dating Dictionary, circa 2018:           many just feel they can jump to the next in an instant...    Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a
        Micro-Cheating:  Inappropriate flirting or contact   and guess what? They can. This is a weak testimony to   master’s degree in psychology and 27 successful years
      with another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond   a real man or woman who is looking to date sincerely as   in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as
      emotional infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an   a romantic goal. If you feel you are in this trap, get out   THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC
      electronic device in one way or another. How do you know   quickly.                                  News, The  Palm  Beach  Post,  PalmBeacher  Magazine,
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