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      The Single Scene Column                                           ©

      By Kelly Leary , Founder of Revolution Dating      You feel someone fell madly in love with you but they have   comes along, but that doesn’t give one high hopes for the
                                                         never met you or you met briefly. In this case you definitely   relationship, does it?
      Decoding the New Dating                            should think twice. Why is he or she falling so fast and they     Today, more than ever, I realize why this club has become
      Language                                           barely know you? How many times have they done this   so popular among our members who are too smart for the
                                                                                                           shark tank. If you are someone who has resisted dating
                                                           Catfishing:  When  a  person  lures  someone  into  a   because of all of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT you do
        The Love Business is                             relationship by pretending to be someone else online or has   have to stand up for what you want at some point and take a
      booming with new couples                           greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often steal photos   strong calculated risk. Not everyone is obsessed with his or
      and  engagements.  I  can’t                        from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes even create multiple   her screens! Not everyone would risk his or her safety, money
      count how many dynamic                             personas to make their stories more believable. They will try   or sanity on internet dating or blind flirting. You don’t have
      duos are enjoying the                              to continue a “fake” relationship for months--always avoiding   to either. Don’t think of what you have to lose today, think of
      fireworks  together  all                           a face-to-face meeting.                           what you have to gain. Be confident, smart, and carry on my
      summer long because of us.                           Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes   friend! It’s time you start dating smart too. You got this--and
      Summertime is the kick-off                         without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, or   so do we!
      of Cuffing Season, the time                        months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t return     Let’s claim some internet-independence!
      when finding a girlfriend or                       your texts, and may even block you to avoid having the break-                              XOXO,
      boyfriend becomes even more                        up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but sadly common,                                   Kelly
      appealing as the countdown to                      especially with a vast array of dating apps at our fingertips.
      the big holidays is officially in                    Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may     Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a master’s
      motion.                                            resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they   degree in psychology and 27 successful years in the dating
        As your leader of love, I have decided to bring you up to   disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened, like   industry. A top matchmaker, now known as THE Florida
      date on some new “terms” being used by singles today. The   a revived corpse.                        Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC News, The Palm
      old-fashioned meeting through introduction by a friend is     Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles   Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, The South Florida
      the best way to go...and that is what we recreate at my club.   finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, anyone   Business Journal, and numerous other media outlets. Please
      So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next chapter of   can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many just feel   call our hotlines seven days a week at 561-630-XOXO (9696)
      your life. Knowledge is power. The power of love knows no   they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess what? They   in the Palm Beaches and South Florida area or 772-932-
      boundaries but first we must know who we are dating and   can. This is a weak testimony to a real man or woman who is   HERE (4373) on the Treasure Coast. You may also visit our
      what goes on “Behind the Screens!” (Yikes). Online daters   looking to date sincerely as a romantic goal. If you feel you   informational only website at All
      beware...and social media lovers...heed my advice! It’s just   are in this trap, get out quickly.    inquiries are confidential. Background checks are required.
      too easy to get into trouble if you are dating via the internet     Stashing: When  the  person  you’re  dating  doesn’t   All applicants must be prescreened in person at our private
      in any way. In this day and age, dating begins and ends with   introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t post   practice to be eligible. This is NOT online dating.
      our smart phones…Time To Get Smarter.              anything about you on social media. Basically, you’re their
      Learn the Dating Dictionary, circa 2018:           secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they feel justified in
        Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with   “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending nothing is going on
      another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional   to the outside world, and keeping their options open. If they
      infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device   proclaim you as their romantic interest, they will have to give
      in one way or another. How do you know if you have crossed   up their search.
      the line? If you are doing anything you would not want your     Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new
      partner knowing about (when it comes to dating or flirting)   partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship,
      like texting inappropriately, sending photos or sharing intimate   you are at risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term,
      feelings with anyone other than your “exclusive” partner, then   where players are left on the bench as reserves, you might
      you are micro-cheating.                            find yourself being someone’s back-up option as they continue
        Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies quickly.   to look around. They may come back to you if nobody better
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