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      The Singles Scene Column                                            ©



      FOUR MONTHS TO                                     within ourselves and as a group in general. I believe,      Statistic: 40 million Americans have tried online
      2020~~Time to Change Your                          along with many Evolutionary Psychologists, that too   dating and the majority report negative experiences
                                                                                                           ESPECIALLY in Florida.
                                                         much time on screens is leading to an increased feeling
      Status!                                            of desperation and often hopelessness. People are hiding      My team and I are wired to help but we can’t do it
                                                         behind their computers and smartphones. Look around   alone. You need to join us and live a real-life off-line as
      By Kelly Leary, M.S.,                              you.  This phenomenon is everywhere from the ball   well. Data shows that the positive effects of the “next
      Founder of Revolution                              field to a popular restaurant. Do people know how to   chance” in 2020 will be felt most strongly in the next
      Dating                                             communicate in person anymore? These days, if you make   four months; however it will continue to work its magic
         In four months, we will                         a phone call, instead of texting, you may be deemed a   into our future if we cut back on our “social” screen life
      all experience a once in                           nuisance or worse--strange!                       now. Why wait?
      a lifetime evening and I                              People hiding behind social media and dating apps      This  all  points back  to  the  saying  “timing  is
      am  glad  we  will  enjoy  it                      “think” they have very little risk of getting hurt and more   everything!” Strike while the iron is hot. Our phones have
      together.  The  world  has                         options, but over the course of time they are actually   been ringing off the hook this year and your connection
      been getting increasingly                          hurting their self-worth.  This is convoluted logic.   awaits. Don’t be the last in line to make a positive change.
      disconnected  for  many                            Single people (half of the adult population) are afraid   Connecting with others spiritually, emotionally, and in-
      people (especially single                          to risk rejection and ask someone out in person. What   person is, in fact, the beauty of life at any age. I’m happy
      people stuck in a rut) while                       they don’t realize is that they are actually destroying   to be in the center of so much love. This is what the world
      hope and love are long                             their self-esteem by comparing themselves to ostensibly   needs--more love--true love--authentic love.
      overdue. The signs have been everywhere--nationally and   “perfect” people online. The focus is on looks, selfies,      If you are on the fence about making a change, and
      internationally. Even on a local level, I was noticing how   and swiping left. There is intense competition to be   I think you are, then isn’t the last quarter of 2019 a
      caught up and confused people have been behaving and it   intimate too soon (for women) and there are too many   perfect time to start? How do you want to spend the
      really bothered me. Many have been literally trapped in   options (for men) which trigger short term commitment   holidays? Who do you want by your side? If you have
      their own world, often behind screens, isolated, and it has   and even divorce. It’s like the online wild west--total   been unsuccessful online dating and spending more than
      been sad to observe as a woman, mother, and matchmaker   chaos and VERY dangerous emotionally and physically.   10 hours per week online dating meeting flat tires (which
      who is connected to love and positivity. How could a   Ask anyone recently divorced at any age--I bet there was   is the national average), then take a step away and ask
      New Year marked 2020 not bring glorious energy and   an extra-marital online affair involved. The odds reveal   yourself: “How’s it working?”
      excitement to all of us? Let’s think about this now--in   the phone was involved too. It may have been a full-     Our parents and their parents did NOT have this many
      advance. You have time now. A lot can happen in FOUR   blown affair in-person or it may have been a micro-affair   options. This is why people stayed together longer. They
      months.                                            (not in-person via video or texting). All signs scream:   endured. They tried. They found the best in their partner
         There are multiple reasons for this disconnection   counterproductive!                            and did not disengage just because someone “better”
                                                                                                           was messaging them or because their mate checklist
                                                                                                           wasn’t complete. This wasn’t possible back in their day.
       Ernesto Screening Services                                                                          Sociologists claim that in the past, people encountered
                                                                                                           only two to three potential mates in a lifetime. Can you
                                                                                                           imagine how the thousands of options at once is eroding
                                                                                                           the very foundation of love and connection? Too much.
                                                                                                           Too soon. Too easy. Too fast. Too sad. Realize it once
                                              Patio Enclosures                                             and for all and know there is a way to fix this dilemma.
                                                                                                             Shut down your screen after work hours and return to
                                               Pool Enclosures                                               love off-line. I’ve been writing this column for 10 years
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                                              Aluminum Roofs                                               reading this for the first time and some of you have read
                                                 Sun Rooms                                                 my column for YEARS and thank you! Either way, waste
                                                                                                           no more time and energy (and money). Let’s get it right
                                                                                                           together. Happy last quarter of 2019! Happy September!
                                                                                                           I can’t wait to meet you in my office (finally).
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               Jupiter, Fl                                                                                   a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She’s been profiled
                                                                                                           by  ABC News, The Palm  Beach Post, PalmBeacher
                                                                                                           Magazine, Stuart News, etc. Revolution Dating
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