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Let Me Tell You

What Does It Mean To Age? a human being with our sights beyond the transcended. Don’t bring pleasure to others as well as self. In my case, limitations
we all want to live a life that is lived rather than watched? became a kind of freedom—a time to complete projects that
By Marie Pinschmidt Since my illness, I can write or paint with more freedom and had been put aside for a more convenient time. As strength
Over a year ago, I learned less concern about criticism than in earlier years. As we age, we returned, the piano beckoned as did the unfinished painting on
what it means to age. Prior gain new perspective on our past by sifting through the stages the easel, and finally writing. I’m now thankful for the “time
to that time I had given little of life we have already experienced. Reflection is essential but out” but do not wish a repeat performance.
thought to the process. Perhaps I choose not to wallow in sad memories. Nor do I regret or Lastly, to grow old gracefully, I believe requires being loyal
this was in some part due to chastise myself for not doing a better job of it. Memories lose to our age. It keeps us from becoming neurotic when we try to
my lifelong preoccupation their sting as well as their weight when we decide to accept look younger. We need to see the distinction between what we
with the arts. As a child, I was and simply be. I’m no longer concerned about regaining my wish and what is. Wishing is denial of who we are. Neurotic
fascinated with music. When youth – impossible – or fear of death. I acknowledge, accept, wishing is denial – beautiful wishing is love of life. It’s good
my legs were long enough and let go. My final chore is to complete my circle of time and to fight for life but not give in too easily. Aging gives us a time
to reach the pedals of our to do so as gracefully as I can. for letting go of wishful thinking, for relaxation, acceptance and
Victorian pump organ, I tried I admit there is a kind of sadness in no longer planning for even joy. Before I die, I want to use up every bit of creativity
to make music. The interest never waned. In my late twenties, a long future – some goals would of necessity be aborted or I have been given, and I want to share it with others.
I pursued painting in oils and this has occupied me to this day. short lived. We go on “life” saving time and live life as it is. My toast to you for another year is: “To a long life of good
In my sixties, I began a career in writing that has expanded We can accept a few limits and concentrate on the things that health, joy and gratitude.”
from essays and poetry to a memoir and novels.
What does it mean to age? It means to become somebody.
You do things that make you a valued and “ripened” person.
with hidden talent and pleasure. Much of “self” remains The Singles Scene Column ©
You learn skills as in art and craft that may surprise you
undiscovered unless you experiment and learn new things – an
important part of “aging well.” A plumber can be a plumber Three Tips to not right, it will never work. Have you heard the saying:
or he can be a sanitary engineer by becoming more involved. Find Love in “Right man, wrong time?” For example, a person that has
We wish to age well like cheese and fine wine. just gone through a break-up and/or is in the throes of
Aging means becoming a whole person. We age ourselves February! financial stress is not ready for love. Do you have any
by how we fill the moments. No one else can fill them for us. idea how many people are online dating or in bars looking
We dare to move out of our usual comfort zone. The Chinese By: Kelly Leary, M.S., for financial gains or to just simply “get over” an ex as
their endgame? More and more men and women come
promote naturalness – doing without striving or effort – Founder of Revolution to me to protect themselves financially and emotionally.
allowing things to take their course. If life doesn’t flow like a Dating Revolution Dating decreases the odds of such dating
river, it’s blocked and the result is chaos. It is when we embrace Happy Valentine’s disasters TREMENDOUSLY!
a resistance to the natural flow of life that we encounter the Day in advance to our Once upon a time, people looking for love only had
stumbling blocks of fear and unrest. readers, clients, and to worry about dating a “player.” Today, we have many
When my health took a downward turn, I was forced to couples. Valentine’s Day more hidden agendas to worry about and this affects men
release control of my situation and possibly my future. I was is a day to look forward just as much as women. Meeting quality single people
no longer just an artist, or just a writer, I was a person at the to for many people but who have “skin in the game” (like other RD clients)
foothills of a mountain I could not climb alone. What to do? for some, it is an opportunity to reflect, reset, and resume increase the odds of finding someone who is financially
Letting things take their course, like the river, seemed the only your romantic goals. Some may break up and some may and emotionally ready for the next chapter! Sincerity is
sensible alternative. I accepted my fate, relaxed my body and decide to get out there again and leave their comfort key. At Revolution Dating, the men and the women have
zone. YET, it’s a scary dating world today with many pit an investment in the process and everyone is vetted.
mind as much as possible, was thankful I still had a life after falls centered around online dating. Recent studies have Enrolling someone who is “relationship ready” is
many procedures and recuperations, and eventually saw the coined terms from flea bagging, to ghosting to zombie- our goal for each new member. At the end of your first
lighthouse shining brightly ahead of me. ing to describe the many warnings online. So, let’s take interview, my hope is to like you so much that I would
Aging is growing old with a full range of emotions that advantage of this New Year and spark a NEW romance introduce you to my own friend (which is how we feel
are often at odds. We strive to disallow emotions and fear to offline. about our clients). I am looking for someone that has an
overcome our ailments. Thomas Mann said, “There is an art to Start fresh like many others have been doing with overall happy life, who I can feel good about representing.
dealing with emotions, and art itself can help.” This essential art huge success! In fact, I am happy to announce that for this I don’t do well with grouchy types and they don’t do well
we cannot do without. From my experience, I have found that year relationship and dating goals equaled weight-loss dating in general, so I advise if this is you, you may not
art can help cure ills, the creation of art in particular. We each and health goals as a top New Year’s Resolution for 2020 be ready for a club like ours. You may have some work to
have to choose our own particular art. Singing or listening to and doing it the more authentically. People of all ages are do if you carry bitterness in your heart. We want you to do
classical or melancholy music helps us to be ourselves – to be shying away from living a life (or lie) online and they are well, and happy people do better on the singles scene. It is
opting for dating the old-fashioned way -- by meeting via what it is. Attitude is everything. I can’t say that enough.
in the moment. Some feel that melancholy is not an illness but introduction through a friend. The problem here is always ♥ ~Bottom Line: This February, WELCOME LOVE
a sign of artistic genius. Melancholy makes us more thoughtful the same: “my friends don’t know anyone,” or “they are BACK into your life. Would you lock the door if Santa
persons with something to express. To age is to become more of too busy with their own lives,” or “my friends are not was on his way to your house in December? (NO) Time
experts.” This is why people are embracing the thought of to fire those dating sites and put your resources into
a matchmaker now more than ever before in my 29 years rewarding endeavors. Let the universe know what you
Editorial copy appearing herewith is not necessarily the viewpoint of of practice. The word “matchmaker” is now a household want -- have honest intentions -- and only then will you
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lining up and guiding you to the next level. So do level up find love one date at a time, as I set out to do 28 years ago.
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M. Sean Reid for you--but we can’t do it alone. No time like the present the flow of selective singles in your local area and change
Jackie Reid to give yourself a present. your luck today. I just may be the most important contact
Representing LOVE is an honor that my team and in your future. Thanks for sharing your time with me
I do not take lightly. Even if you feel you are “tough again.
Sales to match,” we can help. No challenge is too big or too XOXO, Kelly
Tom English, Laura Berrio, Bret McCormick small when you collaborate with the pros. Last year, we #HappyValentinesDay #LoveOffLineIn2020
celebrated more marriages and engagements than I can #ThisIsYourDecade #MenMagnets #TellYourFriends
Production Department count and this year the predictions look even higher. Kelly Leary has 29 years in the dating industry and
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Elaine Donholt • Ruth Nekoranec • Katie Heystek People are weary of being disconnected in an over techy a master’s degree in Psychology. She’s been profiled
Sherry Whalon • Dianne Strout world. Social skills are on the decline and heartache is on by ABC News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher
Karen Kalisz • Peter Hurth • Rachel Blanchard the rise. People are tired of online dating, swiping, and Magazine, Stuart News, etc. Revolution Dating
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