Page 5 - Jupiter Spotlight - July '20

Jupiter Spotlight, Page 5
The Single Scene Column

Decoding Our New Dating or has greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as
THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC
steal photos from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes
Language even create multiple personas to make their stories more News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine,
believable. They will try to continue a “fake” relationship The South Florida Business Journal, and numerous
By Kelly Leary, M.S., for months--always avoiding a face-to-face meeting. other media outlets. Please call our hotlines seven days
Founder and President Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes a week at 561-630-XOXO (9696) in the Palm Beaches
The love business is without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, and South Florida area or 772-932-HERE (4373) on the
booming with new clients or months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t Treasure Coast. You may also visit our informational
and engagement notifications return your texts, and may even block you to avoid having only website at www.revolutiondating.com. All inquiries
post-lockdown. I can’t count the break-up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but are confidential. All applicants must be prescreened in
how many dynamic duos will sadly common, especially with a vast array of dating apps person at our private practice to be eligible. This is NOT
be enjoying the fireworks at our fingertips. online dating.
together because of us. Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may
Summertime is the kick-off of resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they Around Town Photos.
The Cuffing Season, the time disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened,
when finding a girlfriend or like a revived corpse. July 2020.
boyfriend becomes even more Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles
appealing as the countdown to the holidays is only six finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, One of the BEST ways to find love is by introduction
months away. Plus, we are all a little more responsibly anyone can be anyone. False confidence abounds and through a friend. Say no more. A photo speaks 1000 words!
“free” than we were in the Spring. Twenty/Twenty has many just feel they can jump to the next in an instant... Happy Fourth of July from Revolution Dating!
been tough on us all, but it’s about to turn around! and guess what? They can. This is a weak testimony to
The second half of the year will make you smile with a real man or woman who is looking to date sincerely as
appreciation and hope. a romantic goal. If you feel you are in this trap, get out
In the wake of our “new normal,” I have decided to quickly.
bring you up to date on the new “terms” being used on Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t
the dating scene. As always, meeting through introduction introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t
by a friend is the best way to go...and that is what we post anything about you on social media. Basically,
recreate at my club. So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and you’re their secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they
enjoy the next chapter of your life. Knowledge is power. feel justified in “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending
The power of love knows no boundaries but first we must nothing is going on to the outside world, and keeping
know who we are dating and what goes on “Behind the their options open. If they proclaim you as their romantic
Screens!” (Yikes). Online daters beware today more than interest, they will have to give up their search.
ever before...and social media lovers...heed my advice. Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new
It’s just too easy to get into trouble if you are dating via partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship,
the internet in any way. In this day and age, dating begins you are at risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term,
and ends with our smart phones. So, let’s get smarter. where players are left on the bench as reserves, you might
Learn the New Dating Dictionary, circa 2020: find yourself being someone’s back-up option as they
Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact continue to look around. They may come back to you
with another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond if nobody better comes along, but that doesn’t give one
emotional infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an high hopes for the relationship, does it?
electronic device in one way or another. How do you know If you are someone who has resisted dating because
if you have crossed the line? If you are doing anything of all of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT you do have
you would not want your partner knowing about (when it to stand up for what you want at some point and take a
comes to dating or flirting) like texting inappropriately, strong calculated risk. Not everyone is obsessed with his
sending photos or sharing intimate feelings with anyone or her screens! Not everyone would risk his or her safety,
other than your “exclusive” partner, then you are micro- money or sanity on internet dating or blind flirting. You
cheating. don’t have to either. Don’t think of what you have to
Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies lose today, think of what you have to gain. Be confident,
quickly. You feel someone fell madly in love with you smart, and carry on my friend! It’s time you start dating
but they have never met you or you met briefly. In this smart too. You got this--and so do we!
case you definitely should think twice. Why is he or she Let’s claim some internet-independence!
falling so fast and they barely know you? How many XOXO,
times have they done this before? Kelly
Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a
relationship by pretending to be someone else online master’s degree in psychology and 29 successful years

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