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The Single’s Scene Column

The Summer Dating Tsunami avoid. This is essentially how to stay safe emotionally, fiscally, you to their friends or family and doesn’t post anything about
YOU on social media. Basically, you’re their secret boyfriend
and physically. Knowledge is power, friends.
By Kelly Leary, M.S., THE Common Dating Risks: or girlfriend, while they feel justified in “stashing” you on the
Florida Matchmaker, est. 1991 Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with shelf, pretending nothing is going on to the outside world, and
“A life without love is like a year another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional keeping their options open. If they proclaim you as their romantic
without summer.”~~Anonymous infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device in interest, they will have to give up their search.
Happy 4th of July to all of our one way or another. How do you know if you have crossed the Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new partner
clients, couples and friends. Isn’t it line? If you are doing anything you would not want your partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship, you are at
great to feel liberated after 16 plus to know about (when it comes to dating or flirting) like texting risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term, where players
months of all an around socially inappropriately, sending photos or sharing intimate feelings with are left on the bench as reserves, you might find yourself being
restrictive dating dilemma? How anyone other than your “exclusive” partner, then you are micro- someone’s back-up option as they continue to look around. They
do you distance and date at the cheating. may come back to you if nobody better comes along, but that
same time, right? Unlike many Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies quickly. doesn’t give one high hopes for the relationship, does it?
would think, we started seeing You feel someone fell madly in love with you but they have If you or someone you know has resisted dating because of
clients and matching again last never met you or you met out of convenience. In this case, you all or some of the above, I don’t blame you. Don’t think of what
summer around June of 2020. Since then, the pool of new men definitely should think twice. Why is he or she falling so fast? you have to lose today, think of what you have to gain and avoid
and women joining has been really interesting. It’s been fun to Could they be trying to get over a former heartache using you as anyone and any person who seems to be online too much. This
witness. Professional men and women of ALL ages (and I mean their rebound distraction? Make sure their love history is CLEAN is where many dating problems begin and end. I advise you to
25 to 85) have been calling us after being frozen on the fence in before you LEAN. get real. Live IRL (in real life). Love offline FOR SURE. Be
limbo. People are taking action and taking back control of their Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a relationship confident, smart, and carry on my friend! It’s time you start dating
social love life after it was threatened. The pandemic vibe taught by pretending to be someone else online or has greatly altered again. You got this--and so do we! Every pot has a lid. Dating
us not to take anything for granted...and to set the stakes high on their appearance. Catfishes often steal photos from strangers’ can be fun you know...let’s play and see what happens! You have
living your best life. profiles, and sometimes even create multiple personas to make nothing to lose and everything to gain. Stop overthinking and
Many couples broke up during COVID--leaving a lot of you their stories more believable. They will try to continue a “fake” make your move while the dating pool is HOT! This July we
to fly free. So now that you are FREE (single) how do you feel relationship for months--always avoiding a face-to-face meeting. have some exclusive specials that will only be available to my
about it? I would bet that being single is not your end game. So This happens ALL the time. loyal readers and their friends. Share the love and pass it on!
what do you do? You get smart for one thing. Let the current Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes Wishing you so much love and happiness this July. The clouds
dating tsunami take over your heart in a good way. Don’t fret without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, or have parted. There is nothing but green pastures ahead for you.
about the worries of dating again. Just get smarter, get up to date months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t return XOXO,
(no pun). Realize long term relationships are back in style. Old your texts, and may even block you to avoid having the break- Kelly
school ways of dating have re-emerged in a refreshing manner. up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but sadly common, #ChristmasInJulySpecials #ShareYourLove
People are getting to know each other better before diving in feet especially with a vast array of dating apps at our fingertips. It’s #30YearsInTheBiz #MakeYourFreedomFun #TellYourFriends
first. This has allowed the process to change from falling in love too easy to jump ship if you are dating an online addict (Facebook Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a master’s
to forever love. or any dating site). degree in psychology and 30 successful years in the dating
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do have to put yourself out there and make yourself vulnerable. resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC News, The Palm
There is no way around it. There are no dating hacks (other than disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened, like a Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, The South Florida Business
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