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DatiNg

The Single’s Scene Column no dating hacks (other than hiring a matchmaker). There sadly common, especially with a vast array of dating apps
is no insurance policy on love per se. You can, however,
at our fingertips. It’s too easy to jump ship if you are dating
The Summer Dating Tsunami date smart and date local while positioning yourself to an online addict (Facebook or any dating site).
meet authentic people via private introduction from an Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may
By Kelly Leary, M.S., educated pro. This is always your best bet. If you go resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they
THE Florida Matchmaker, online or use social media as your source, be aware of disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened,
est. 1991 some of the bumps you could encounter along the way. like a revived corpse.
“A life without love If you get frustrated, make a change for the better and Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles
is like a year without don’t get bitter, like many people who play or stay online finding it so easy to communicate via a smartphone, anyone
summer.”~~Anonymous dating too long. It can affect you if you do which is why can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many just
Happy 4th of July to all we are giving you this Dating 101 education to avoid. This feel they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess
of our clients, couples and is essentially how to stay safe emotionally, fiscally, and what? They can. This is a weak testimony to a real man
friends. Isn’t it great to feel physically. Knowledge is power, friends. or woman who is looking to date sincerely as a romantic
liberated after 16 plus months Common Dating Risks: goal. If you feel you are in this trap, get out quickly.
of all an around socially Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t
restrictive dating dilemma? another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional introduce you to their friends or family and doesn’t post
How do you distance and infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device anything about YOU on social media. Basically, you’re
date at the same time, right? Unlike many would think, we in one way or another. How do you know if you have their secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they feel justified
started seeing clients and matching again last summer around crossed the line? If you are doing anything you would not in “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending nothing is going
June of 2020. Since then, the pool of new men and women want your partner to know about (when it comes to dating on to the outside world, and keeping their options open.
joining has been really interesting. It’s been fun to witness. or flirting) like texting inappropriately, sending photos If they proclaim you as their romantic interest, they will
Professional men and women of ALL ages (and I mean 25 or sharing intimate feelings with anyone other than your have to give up their search.
to 85) have been calling us after being frozen on the fence “exclusive” partner, then you are micro-cheating. Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new
in limbo. People are taking action and taking back control of Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship,
their social love life after it was threatened. The pandemic quickly. You feel someone fell madly in love with you but you are at risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term,
vibe taught us not to take anything for granted...and to set they have never met you or you met out of convenience. where players are left on the bench as reserves, you might
the stakes high on living your best life. In this case, you definitely should think twice. Why is he find yourself being someone’s back-up option as they
Many couples broke up during COVID--leaving a lot or she falling so fast? Could they be trying to get over a continue to look around. They may come back to you if
of you to fly free. So now that you are FREE (single) how former heartache using you as their rebound distraction? nobody better comes along, but that doesn’t give one high
do you feel about it? I would bet that being single is not Make sure their love history is CLEAN before you LEAN. hopes for the relationship, does it?
your end game. So what do you do? You get smart for Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a If you or someone you know has resisted dating because
one thing. Let the current dating tsunami take over your relationship by pretending to be someone else online or has of all or some of the above, I don’t blame you. Don’t think
heart in a good way. Don’t fret about the worries of dating greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often steal photos of what you have to lose today, think of what you have
again. Just get smarter, get up to date (no pun). Realize from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes even create multiple to gain and avoid anyone and any person who seems to
long term relationships are back in style. Old school ways personas to make their stories more believable. They will be online too much. This is where many dating problems
of dating have re-emerged in a refreshing manner. People try to continue a “fake” relationship for months--always begin and end. I advise you to get real. Live IRL (in real
are getting to know each other better before diving in feet avoiding a face-to-face meeting. This happens ALL the time. life). Love offline FOR SURE. Be confident, smart, and
first. This has allowed the process to change from falling Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes carry on my friend! It’s time you start dating again. You
in love to forever love. without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, got this--and so do we! Every pot has a lid. Dating can be
If you desire to have forever love again, you can. or months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t fun you know...let’s play and see what happens! You have
Period. You do have to put yourself out there and make return your texts, and may even block you to avoid having nothing to lose and everything to gain. Stop overthinking
yourself vulnerable. There is no way around it. There are the break-up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but and make your move while the dating pool is HOT! This
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Wishing you so much love and happiness this July. The
clouds have parted. There is nothing but green pastures
ahead for you.
By Jackie Holfelder XOXO,
Kelly
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volunteer, Theodora (Thea) in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as
Valen Lacey. THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC
Thea joined the nonprofit News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, The
South Florida Business Journal, and numerous other media
in 1997 and shared her outlets. Please call our hotlines seven days a week at 561-
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for many years and was revolutiondating.com. All inquiries are confidential. All
instrumental in recruiting applicants must be prescreened in person at our private
practice to be eligible. This is NOT online dating.
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