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Boca Exposure, Page 5
The Singles Scene Column ©

By: Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder of Revolution Dating exciting, it could be easy to deny BIG warning signs. Let 2. He or she intentionally avoids “big picture” questions.
your guard down but be FULLY AWARE of your worth It is easy to be in a relationship that moves forward comfortably,
Bring On The Boundaries! and your boundaries. This may include accepting that your but do you ask your partner about making plans or other
chosen person is not “relationship ready” and no amount of commitments in advance? Does he or she quickly change the
Love is blind, especially “work” can make it better. This person could be fresh out of subject and avoid answering? If so, this is a clear sign that
during the honeymoon phase a breakup, secretly in love with someone else, or financially he or she probably does not see you as an item in the future.
of dating when all seems challenged (looking for a sugar mommy or daddy). In my 31 This could be either a dead-end relationship or a sideways
miraculous. You feel like years of experience in this magical love biz, I have mastered relationship (meaning going nowhere). Let’s not forget: none
you have won the jackpot the art of screening our applicants. Thankfully, by the end of of us are getting any younger. Time to GO!
of love--but have you? It the first meeting, I know in my heart and head that a client is 3. His or her attitude frequently turns on a dime. Does
is important to keep your either date-worthy or not. Unfortunately, I can’t be a little bird your boyfriend or girlfriend vacillate from being happy-go-
eyes wide open in the early on your shoulder when you are out on the town doing this all lucky to the Incredible Hulk, then back to a fuzzy teddy bear
stages of courtship to save by yourself or at home alone, so here are seven relationship with no apology or explanation? This type of personality is not
time and heartache in the hacks to help guide you in the meantime. good. Stability is important in any relationship and you don’t
long run. Have a blast and 1. He or she rushes the relationship. If your romantic want to feel like you’re walking on eggshells because you
enjoy your budding romance interest is too busy to take the time to get to know you are unsure about how your partner will react from moment to
but don’t be fooled by flying red flags. As a relationship and develop a friendship first this is a sign of relational moment. This will create a constant state of insecurity. THIS
grows (somewhere between months three and six), the “true immaturity and possibly insincerity. Rushing you into the will only get worse.
self” begins to emerge. If the love was overwhelming and bedroom when you are not ready is a bright red flag. 4. He or she refuses to make your relationship “public.”
Some people like to take their time and get to know their new
beau before introducing them to their parents, kids, etc., but
after a reasonable amount of time, if you have not met his or her
friends and family that is a red flag. If this person will not post
photos of you as a couple on social media...be SURE there is
a problem...especially if you are posting photos on your social
media. This is grounds for a “we need to have a talk” session.
5. He or she has little to no work ethic. Everyone has a
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different level of ambition, but when you notice your date has
not hit life milestones (owning a house or having a long-term
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6. He or she refers to all of their exes as “crazy.” Some
relationships do end badly and it is easy to say that it was always
the other person’s fault, however it takes two to tango. When
someone proclaims that ALL of the exes are “crazy” it is a sign
that they are the problem. On the other hand, if your new girl
or guy speaks highly of their exes, and has good things to say
about them...consider that a good sign (as long as they don’t
talk about their ex too much).
7. He or she drives a wedge between you and your
family or friends. This person is most likely a control freak or
a narcissist or both. This person can’t stand it when you are not
paying attention to them...and they often will bash your friends
and family to isolate you. Your friends will notice this quickly...
listen to them. This person is trying to control your life. Don’t
let it happen!
If you identify with one or more of these principles, don’t
be afraid to confront your person and/or end the relationship
boldly and quickly. Captain your ship or be captained (by the
wrong one). Choosing the right partner in life is everything...it
can make or break you and your future. Change is a good thing
and the universe will reward you for taking care of yourself.
Freeing yourself from a doomed relationship will only allow a
better love to enter your life. Just think, when one door closes,
another door will open. It always does...and I have THREE red
doors for you to walk through in my office on PGA Boulevard
where we have happily been for close to ten years now. Clearly,
we are doing some fabulous work and we can’t wait to meet
you too! You are now one step closer to getting it right!
I know I helped you today, and I can’t wait to continue
this journey with you! If you are paired off, do continue to
share this column with your single-family and friends like
you have for so many years. Thank you for following the
matchmaker as always.
Spread the love--the world needs more--right?
Talk Soon!
XoXo, Kelly
P.S. Friendly reminder to get a head start on the up and
coming Holiday Season 2022 and play it forward! Starting
this process in September will increase your odds of finding
the right one in time for the most social party season of the
year. #FallInLove #WhyWaitJustDate #TellYourFriends
#MenMagnets
Kelly Leary has 31 years in the dating industry and
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a master’s degree in psychology. She’s been profiled by
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and has been a Cover Girl for Florida Woman Magazine
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