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Dating

The Singles Scene Column © is not good. Stability is important in any relationship and I know I helped you today, and I can’t wait to continue

you don’t want to feel like you’re walking on eggshells this journey with you! If you are paired off, do continue
By: Kelly Leary, M.S., because you are unsure about how your partner will react to share this column with your single-family and friends
Founder of Revolution from moment to moment. This will create a constant state like you have for so many years. Thank you for following
Dating of insecurity. THIS will only get worse. the matchmaker as always.
4. He or she refuses to make your relationship Spread the love--the world needs more--right?
Bring On The “public.” Some people like to take their time and get Talk Soon!
Boundaries! to know their new beau before introducing them to their XoXo, Kelly
Love is blind, especially parents, kids, etc., but after a reasonable amount of time, P.S. Friendly reminder to get a head start on the up
during the honeymoon if you have not met his or her friends and family that is and coming Holiday Season 2022 and play it forward!
phase of dating when all a red flag. If this person will not post photos of you as a Starting this process in September will increase your
seems miraculous. You couple on social media...be SURE there is a problem... odds of finding the right one in time for the most social
feel like you have won the especially if you are posting photos on your social media. party season of the year. #FallInLove #WhyWaitJustDate
jackpot of love--but have This is grounds for a “we need to have a talk” session. #TellYourFriends #MenMagnets
you? It is important to keep your eyes wide open in the 5. He or she has little to no work ethic. Everyone Kelly Leary has 31 years in the dating industry and
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early stages of courtship to save time and heartache in the has a different level of ambition, but when you notice a master’s degree in psychology. She’s been profiled by
long run. Have a blast and enjoy your budding romance your date has not hit life milestones (owning a house or The Palm Beach Post, Jupiter Magazine, Stuart News
but don’t be fooled by flying red flags. As a relationship having a long-term job) ask yourself if this person is a and has been a Cover Girl for Florida Woman Magazine
grows (somewhere between months three and six), the good catch. He or she could be using you too! Realize: among many other publications. All Revolution Dating
“true self” begins to emerge. If the love was overwhelming 75% of the people online or in bars are dating for financial clients are prescreened in person in their private offices.
and exciting, it could be easy to deny BIG warning signs. gains. If this person doesn’t have their life together by a Professional photos are taken by the staff. Revolution
Let your guard down but be FULLY AWARE of your certain age and you do, you should walk away! You have Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition
worth and your boundaries. This may include accepting too much to lose. to providing matchmaking services that make singles
that your chosen person is not “relationship ready” and no 6. He or she refers to all of their exes as “crazy.” “UN-single” through their exclusive membership, Kelly
amount of “work” can make it better. This person could be Some relationships do end badly and it is easy to say that and her incredible team also provide date coaching and
fresh out of a breakup, secretly in love with someone else, it was always the other person’s fault, however it takes feedback. They will even style you by request! Each
or financially challenged (looking for a sugar mommy or two to tango. When someone proclaims that ALL of the membership is custom-made to suit you and your needs.
daddy). In my 31 years of experience in this magical love exes are “crazy” it is a sign that they are the problem. For more information, please call (561) 630-XOXO
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Thankfully, by the end of the first meeting, I know in my of their exes, and has good things to say about them... revolutiondating.com. This is all CONFIDENTIAL and
heart and head that a client is either date-worthy or not. consider that a good sign (as long as they don’t talk about OFFLINE.
Unfortunately, I can’t be a little bird on your shoulder their ex too much).
when you are out on the town doing this all by yourself 7. He or she drives a wedge between you and your
or at home alone, so here are seven relationship hacks to family or friends. This person is most likely a control Business Spotlight from page 4
help guide you in the meantime. freak or a narcissist or both. This person can’t stand it
1. He or she rushes the relationship. If your romantic when you are not paying attention to them...and they communicative disorders and a Master of Arts in
interest is too busy to take the time to get to know you often will bash your friends and family to isolate you. English education from University of Central Florida.
and develop a friendship first this is a sign of relational Your friends will notice this quickly...listen to them. This After working in real estate from 1997 to 2004,
immaturity and possibly insincerity. Rushing you into the person is trying to control your life. Don’t let it happen! Decowksi taught in public schools in Orange and
bedroom when you are not ready is a bright red flag. If you identify with one or more of these principles, Martin counties from 2004 to 2014, before re-entering
2. He or she intentionally avoids “big picture” don’t be afraid to confront your person and/or end the the world of real estate as a full-time agent in 2014.
questions. It is easy to be in a relationship that moves relationship boldly and quickly. Captain your ship or As team leader at The Kelley Decowski Team at
forward comfortably, but do you ask your partner about be captained (by the wrong one). Choosing the right RE/MAX of Stuart, she’s also known for philanthropic
making plans or other commitments in advance? Does he partner in life is everything...it can make or break you endeavors, which have always included education. She
or she quickly change the subject and avoid answering? and your future. Change is a good thing and the universe says she joined the EFMC board “in order to work with
If so, this is a clear sign that he or she probably does not will reward you for taking care of yourself. Freeing other like-minded individuals who want nothing more
see you as an item in the future. This could be either a yourself from a doomed relationship will only allow a than to see our schools succeed.”
dead-end relationship or a sideways relationship (meaning better love to enter your life. Just think, when one door Decowski is a former board member of Children’s
going nowhere). Let’s not forget: none of us are getting closes, another door will open. It always does...and I have Museum of the Treasure Coast, past president of
any younger. Time to GO! THREE red doors for you to walk through in my office on Hibiscus Children’s Center Guild, supporter of Martin
3. His or her attitude frequently turns on a dime. Does PGA Boulevard where we have happily been for close to County High School and Gertrude Walden Child Care
your boyfriend or girlfriend vacillate from being happy-go- ten years now. Clearly, we are doing some fabulous work Center. She’s also a member of Cleveland Clinic/
lucky to the Incredible Hulk, then back to a fuzzy teddy bear and we can’t wait to meet you too! You are now one step Martin Health System’s Mum Ball committee.
with no apology or explanation? This type of personality closer to getting it right! Her two children, Tyler and Sarah, are learning to
follow in the footsteps of their community-minded
mom who says, “I think it’s really important for kids
October 11th to learn about social responsibility from an early age.
There are all sorts of ways we can help other people
and it’s not always monetary. Sometimes the best gift
we can give is our time.”
In her spare time, Decowski loves to run and is an
Last day to register to vote for the November 8th avid reader.
General Election She’s looking forward to working with the EFMC
Board of Directors under the direction of EFMC’s new
executive committee, Kate Cotner, president; Patrick
McNealy, first vice president; Karina Talalay, second
El 11 de octubre es el último día para registrarse para votar en las elecciones generales del 8 de noviembre vice president; Michael Moehring, treasurer; Tyson
Waters, secretary; and Arati Hammond, immediate
past-president, to ensure that the not-for-profit, 501(c)
(3), community investment organization comprised of
Register to Vote business leaders, community volunteers, and school
Online at officials has its most successful year ever.
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