Page 7 - Southern Exposure - September '22

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DAting

The Singles Scene Column ©

By: Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder of Revolution Dating
Bring On The Boundaries!

Love is blind, especially with no apology or explanation? This type of personality doors for you to walk through in my office on PGA Boulevard
during the honeymoon phase is not good. Stability is important in any relationship and where we have happily been for close to ten years now. Clearly,
of dating when all seems you don’t want to feel like you’re walking on eggshells we are doing some fabulous work and we can’t wait to meet
miraculous. You feel like because you are unsure about how your partner will react you too! You are now one step closer to getting it right!
you have won the jackpot from moment to moment. This will create a constant state I know I helped you today, and I can’t wait to continue this
of love--but have you? It is of insecurity. THIS will only get worse. journey with you! If you are paired off, do continue to share this
important to keep your eyes 4. He or she refuses to make your relationship “public.” column with your single-family and friends like you have for so
wide open in the early stages Some people like to take their time and get to know their new many years. Thank you for following the matchmaker as always.
of courtship to save time and beau before introducing them to their parents, kids, etc., but Spread the love--the world needs more--right?
heartache in the long run. Have after a reasonable amount of time, if you have not met his or her Talk Soon!
a blast and enjoy your budding friends and family that is a red flag. If this person will not post XoXo, Kelly
romance but don’t be fooled by photos of you as a couple on social media...be SURE there is P.S. Friendly reminder to get a head start on the up and
flying red flags. As a relationship grows (somewhere between a problem...especially if you are posting photos on your social coming Holiday Season 2022 and play it forward! Starting
months three and six), the “true self” begins to emerge. If media. This is grounds for a “we need to have a talk” session. this process in September will increase your odds of finding
the love was overwhelming and exciting, it could be easy to 5. He or she has little to no work ethic. Everyone has the right one in time for the most social party season of the
deny BIG warning signs. Let your guard down but be FULLY a different level of ambition, but when you notice your date year. #FallInLove #WhyWaitJustDate #TellYourFriends
AWARE of your worth and your boundaries. This may include has not hit life milestones (owning a house or having a #MenMagnets
accepting that your chosen person is not “relationship ready” long-term job) ask yourself if this person is a good catch. He Kelly Leary has 31 years in the dating industry and a
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and no amount of “work” can make it better. This person could or she could be using you too! Realize: 75% of the people master’s degree in psychology. She’s been profiled by The
be fresh out of a breakup, secretly in love with someone else, or online or in bars are dating for financial gains. If this person Palm Beach Post, Jupiter Magazine, Stuart News and has
financially challenged (looking for a sugar mommy or daddy). doesn’t have their life together by a certain age and you do, been a Cover Girl for Florida Woman Magazine among
In my 31 years of experience in this magical love biz, I have you should walk away! You have too much to lose. many other publications. All Revolution Dating clients are
mastered the art of screening our applicants. Thankfully, by 6. He or she refers to all of their exes as “crazy.” Some prescreened in person in their private offices. Professional
the end of the first meeting, I know in my heart and head that relationships do end badly and it is easy to say that it was photos are taken by the staff. Revolution Dating is not online
a client is either date-worthy or not. Unfortunately, I can’t be always the other person’s fault, however it takes two to tango. dating or blind dating. In addition to providing matchmaking
a little bird on your shoulder when you are out on the town When someone proclaims that ALL of the exes are “crazy” it services that make singles “UN-single” through their exclusive
doing this all by yourself or at home alone, so here are seven is a sign that they are the problem. On the other hand, if your membership, Kelly and her incredible team also provide date
relationship hacks to help guide you in the meantime. new girl or guy speaks highly of their exes, and has good coaching and feedback. They will even style you by request!
1. He or she rushes the relationship. If your romantic things to say about them...consider that a good sign (as long Each membership is custom-made to suit you and your needs.
interest is too busy to take the time to get to know you and as they don’t talk about their ex too much). For more information, please call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or
develop a friendship first this is a sign of relational immaturity 7. He or she drives a wedge between you and your family or (772) 932-HERE (4373) or visit us at www.revolutiondating.
and possibly insincerity. Rushing you into the bedroom when friends. This person is most likely a control freak or a narcissist or com. This is all CONFIDENTIAL and OFFLINE.
you are not ready is a bright red flag. both. This person can’t stand it when you are not paying attention
2. He or she intentionally avoids “big picture” to them...and they often will bash your friends and family to NEED A/C? We’ve Got You Covered!
questions. It is easy to be in a relationship that moves forward isolate you. Your friends will notice this quickly...listen to them.
comfortably, but do you ask your partner about making plans or This person is trying to control your life. Don’t let it happen!
other commitments in advance? Does he or she quickly change If you identify with one or more of these principles, don’t
the subject and avoid answering? If so, this is a clear sign that be afraid to confront your person and/or end the relationship
he or she probably does not see you as an item in the future. boldly and quickly. Captain your ship or be captained (by the
This could be either a dead-end relationship or a sideways wrong one). Choosing the right partner in life is everything...it “WE SHOW
relationship (meaning going nowhere). Let’s not forget: none can make or break you and your future. Change is a good thing
of us are getting any younger. Time to GO! and the universe will reward you for taking care of yourself. UP!”
3. His or her attitude frequently turns on a dime. Does Freeing yourself from a doomed relationship will only allow a
your boyfriend or girlfriend vacillate from being happy-go- better love to enter your life. Just think, when one door closes,
lucky to the Incredible Hulk, then back to a fuzzy teddy bear another door will open. It always does...and I have THREE red

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