Page 3 - The Shores of Jupiter - September '19

The Shores, Page 3
The Singles Scene Column ©

FOUR MONTHS TO People hiding behind social media and dating apps If you are on the fence about making a change, and I
2020~~Time to Change Your “think” they have very little risk of getting hurt and more think you are, then isn’t the last quarter of 2019 a perfect
options, but over the course of time they are actually hurting
time to start? How do you want to spend the holidays? Who
Status! their self-worth. This is convoluted logic. Single people do you want by your side? If you have been unsuccessful
(half of the adult population) are afraid to risk rejection online dating and spending more than 10 hours per week
By Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder and ask someone out in person. What they don’t realize online dating meeting flat tires (which is the national
of Revolution Dating is that they are actually destroying their self-esteem by average), then take a step away and ask yourself: “How’s
In four months, we will all comparing themselves to ostensibly “perfect” people online. it working?”
experience a once in a lifetime The focus is on looks, selfies, and swiping left. There is Our parents and their parents did NOT have this many
evening and I am glad we will intense competition to be intimate too soon (for women) options. This is why people stayed together longer. They
enjoy it together. The world and there are too many options (for men) which trigger endured. They tried. They found the best in their partner
has been getting increasingly short term commitment and even divorce. It’s like the online and did not disengage just because someone “better”
disconnected for many people wild west--total chaos and VERY dangerous emotionally was messaging them or because their mate checklist
(especially single people stuck and physically. Ask anyone recently divorced at any age--I wasn’t complete. This wasn’t possible back in their day.
in a rut) while hope and love are bet there was an extra-marital online affair involved. The Sociologists claim that in the past, people encountered only
long overdue. The signs have odds reveal the phone was involved too. It may have been two to three potential mates in a lifetime. Can you imagine
been everywhere--nationally a full-blown affair in-person or it may have been a micro- how the thousands of options at once is eroding the very
and internationally. Even on a local level, I was noticing affair (not in-person via video or texting). All signs scream: foundation of love and connection? Too much. Too soon.
how caught up and confused people have been behaving and counterproductive! Too easy. Too fast. Too sad. Realize it once and for all and
it really bothered me. Many have been literally trapped in Statistic: 40 million Americans have tried online know there is a way to fix this dilemma.
their own world, often behind screens, isolated, and it has dating and the majority report negative experiences Shut down your screen after work hours and return to
been sad to observe as a woman, mother, and matchmaker ESPECIALLY in Florida. love off-line. I’ve been writing this column for 10 years
who is connected to love and positivity. How could a New My team and I are wired to help but we can’t do it alone. now and matchmaking for over 28 years. Some of you are
Year marked 2020 not bring glorious energy and excitement You need to join us and live a real-life off-line as well. Data reading this for the first time and some of you have read
to all of us? Let’s think about this now--in advance. You shows that the positive effects of the “next chance” in 2020 my column for YEARS and thank you! Either way, waste
have time now. A lot can happen in FOUR months. will be felt most strongly in the next four months; however no more time and energy (and money). Let’s get it right
There are multiple reasons for this disconnection within it will continue to work its magic into our future if we cut together. Happy last quarter of 2019! Happy September! I
ourselves and as a group in general. I believe, along with back on our “social” screen life now. Why wait? can’t wait to meet you in my office (finally).
many Evolutionary Psychologists, that too much time on This all points back to the saying “timing is everything!” XOXO
screens is leading to an increased feeling of desperation Strike while the iron is hot. Our phones have been ringing Love, Kelly
and often hopelessness. People are hiding behind their off the hook this year and your connection awaits. Don’t be THE Florida Matchmaker
computers and smartphones. Look around you. This the last in line to make a positive change. Connecting with #FallInLove #PlayItForward #RevolutionDating
phenomenon is everywhere from the ball field to a popular others spiritually, emotionally, and in-person is, in fact, the #OneTwoThree #CallStartLove #TellYourFriends
restaurant. Do people know how to communicate in person beauty of life at any age. I’m happy to be in the center of so
anymore? These days, if you make a phone call, instead of much love. This is what the world needs--more love--true Kelly Leary© has 28 years in the dating industry and
texting, you may be deemed a nuisance or worse--strange! love--authentic love. a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She’s been profiled
by ABC News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher
Magazine, Stuart News, etc. Revolution Dating
members are pre-screened including background checks.
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