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Dating

The Single Scene Column ©

❤28 Tips from My 28 Years as THE Florida Matchmaker❤

By Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder of Revolution Dating

1. Practice kindness. 7. Inner beauty trumps exterior beauty every day of a new person, I advise three dates before you can be sure
The biggest turnoff is a the week. Looks don’t mean a thing when it comes to success you are not violating #11 above.
person who walks into a on The Singles Scene. Exterior beauty might get you in the 16. The 50:50 Rule. This is about talking, not paying the
date, room, or party--with a door, but can you get a second date? Inner beauty rules. (Read tab! While dating, keep an eye on your conversation & your
bad attitude. It is imperative #1 again.) listening skills. Take turns. Share the conversation. Don’t
that we all practice kindness 8. Believe in yourself. If you don’t, no one else will… take it over.
in life, love, work and play-- including your date! 17. When you break up, do it with class. Don’t break
single or not. 9. If you are striking out, look in the mirror and soul up through an email or text. Be nice!
2. First impressions search. Matchmaking is a collaboration. Connect, bond, 18. Grieving is tough, and everyone has their own
matter. I’ve learned that show your good side, listen to feedback, give feedback, timeline. Juniors & seniors are dating after the loss of a
your impression of a person cooperate and be open to advice from the pros--we have spouse and finding love again in this day and age. Since
is usually formed in the first earned the respect of thousands. January 2017, we have had multiple engagements of people
60 seconds! So make sure that your “hello” is a good one... 10. Exercise! If you don’t MOVE, you won’t groove in who happen to be widows and widowers. It can happen to
an honest, sincere hello! any way in The Singles Scene. So don’t be lazy--shake it up you too.
3. Love begets love. We have a rule in our office: “Only shake--even if it’s a 15-minute walk a day. 19. Love over 65 is easier than you think! I am not even
Love is Spoken Here!” Go on a date with this in mind and I 11. Don’t be quick to reject a man or woman. I have a intimidated by aging anymore, as I watch my clients have
guarantee you will probably get a second one! female client who won’t date a man under 6’4”. He has to be fun well into their 80’s. Just last month, we had a wedding
4. Know thyself. The biggest challenge I often witness a blue-eyed tri-athlete with a high net worth! High standards of a lovely couple in their 70’s.
as a matchmaker is when I have a client who has unrealistic are fine, as long as you know that the other person has to like 20. Don’t delay real romance in your 30’s. Don’t wait
expectations, i.e. a “7” who wants to go for a “10”. To clarify-- YOU back! until you’re 37 or 38 to get serious about your search for a
this is not just about looks--it’s about the overall package each 12. Men bear the brunt of dating. So ladies, don’t abuse life-long partner. Your thirties will turn into your 40’s sooner
of us has to offer--inside and out! this and use them for a free meal! Always be courteous and than you think.
5. You can buy love (sort of). Dinners, gifts, cards, say thank you! 21. Cowards never start, winners never quit, and
flowers, vacations, rings, new outfits, hair salons, weddings… 13. Online dating is a risky roll of the dice. You could quitters never win. Don’t ever quit on love. When you side
there is no avoiding the “cost” of dating. If you don’t invest lose your time, money, and soul (T.M.E.) in the same way with fear, you are running from love.
in you and your social life, you won’t progress. people lose themselves in Vegas! 22. Join a love movement of some kind. Stand up for
6. T.M.E. Rule: Dating is an investment of Time, 14. Always maintain an attitude of gratitude. This something in your life that is GOOD. Be part of the solution
Money, and Emotion. Any date is an investment of all three. applies to your love life and far beyond. to the problems of the world.
With our pre-screening of members, relationships move 15. The 80/20 Rule. If your relationship/date is 80% 23. You catch more flies with honey than you do with
along quicker and tend to be a better investment of T.M.E. good and 20% questionable, it’s time to do some serious
at Revolution Dating. soul searching. Is this the right fit for you? If you are dating Dating on page 6

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