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Lifestyles in Palm Beach Gardens, Page 9
The Singles Scene Column ©

FOUR MONTHS TO destroying their self-esteem by comparing themselves to claim that in the past, people encountered only two to three
potential mates in a lifetime. Can you imagine how the
ostensibly “perfect” people online. The focus is on looks,
2020~~Time to Change Your selfies, and swiping left. There is intense competition to be thousands of options at once is eroding the very foundation
Status! intimate too soon (for women) and there are too many options of love and connection? Too much. Too soon. Too easy. Too
fast. Too sad. Realize it once and for all and know there is a
(for men) which trigger short term commitment and even
divorce. It’s like the online wild west--total chaos and VERY way to fix this dilemma.
By Kelly Leary, M.S., dangerous emotionally and physically. Ask anyone recently Shut down your screen after work hours and return to love
Founder of Revolution Dating divorced at any age--I bet there was an extra-marital online off-line. I’ve been writing this column for 10 years now and
In four months, we will all affair involved. The odds reveal the phone was involved too. matchmaking for over 28 years. Some of you are reading
experience a once in a lifetime It may have been a full-blown affair in-person or it may have this for the first time and some of you have read my column
evening and I am glad we will been a micro-affair (not in-person via video or texting). All for YEARS and thank you! Either way, waste no more time
enjoy it together. The world signs scream: counterproductive! and energy (and money). Let’s get it right together. Happy
has been getting increasingly Statistic: 40 million Americans have tried online last quarter of 2019! Happy September! I can’t wait to meet
disconnected for many people dating and the majority report negative experiences you in my office (finally).
(especially single people stuck ESPECIALLY in Florida. XOXO
in a rut) while hope and love are My team and I are wired to help but we can’t do it alone. Love, Kelly
long overdue. The signs have You need to join us and live a real-life off-line as well. Data THE Florida Matchmaker
been everywhere--nationally shows that the positive effects of the “next chance” in 2020 #FallInLove #PlayItForward #RevolutionDating
and internationally. Even on a local level, I was noticing how will be felt most strongly in the next four months; however #OneTwoThree #CallStartLove #TellYourFriends
caught up and confused people have been behaving and it it will continue to work its magic into our future if we cut
really bothered me. Many have been literally trapped in their back on our “social” screen life now. Why wait? Kelly Leary© has 28 years in the dating industry and
own world, often behind screens, isolated, and it has been This all points back to the saying “timing is everything!” a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She’s been profiled
sad to observe as a woman, mother, and matchmaker who Strike while the iron is hot. Our phones have been ringing by ABC News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher
is connected to love and positivity. How could a New Year off the hook this year and your connection awaits. Don’t be Magazine, Stuart News, etc. Revolution Dating
marked 2020 not bring glorious energy and excitement to the last in line to make a positive change. Connecting with members are pre-screened including background checks.
all of us? Let’s think about this now--in advance. You have others spiritually, emotionally, and in-person is, in fact, the Professional photos are taken by the staff. Revolution
time now. A lot can happen in FOUR months. beauty of life at any age. I’m happy to be in the center of so Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition to
There are multiple reasons for this disconnection within much love. This is what the world needs--more love--true providing matchmaking services that make singles “UN-
ourselves and as a group in general. I believe, along with love--authentic love. single” through their exclusive club membership, Kelly
many Evolutionary Psychologists, that too much time on If you are on the fence about making a change, and also holds private singles events. For information on how
screens is leading to an increased feeling of desperation and I think you are, then isn’t the last quarter of 2019 a you can reset your love life please call 561-630-XOXO
often hopelessness. People are hiding behind their computers perfect time to start? How do you want to spend the (9696) or 772-932-HERE (4373) or visit us at www.
and smartphones. Look around you. This phenomenon is holidays? Who do you want by your side? If you have revolutiondating.com. All inquiries are confidential.
everywhere from the ball field to a popular restaurant. Do been unsuccessful online dating and spending more than
people know how to communicate in person anymore? These 10 hours per week online dating meeting flat tires (which
days, if you make a phone call, instead of texting, you may is the national average), then take a step away and ask
be deemed a nuisance or worse--strange! yourself: “How’s it working?” First Quarter Third Quarter
People hiding behind social media and dating apps “think” Our parents and their parents did NOT have this many September 5 September 21
they have very little risk of getting hurt and more options, but options. This is why people stayed together longer. They
over the course of time they are actually hurting their self- endured. They tried. They found the best in their partner Full Moon New Moon
worth. This is convoluted logic. Single people (half of the and did not disengage just because someone “better” was September 14 September 28
adult population) are afraid to risk rejection and ask someone messaging them or because their mate checklist wasn’t
out in person. What they don’t realize is that they are actually complete. This wasn’t possible back in their day. Sociologists

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