Page 12 - Boca Exposure - February '20

Page 12, Boca Exposure
Reality Check √… Healthy Answers On Living

And Loving Life: ‘Make This Year The Best Yet!’

By Dale Brown, B.S., M.A., If you think back to your friends, co-workers, and acquaintances, checking out the bartender, glancing at his phone, or waving to
C.E.C. Dale is a motivational I’m sure you can recall some or many whom you would deem a person in the distance. It’s very rude and makes you feel as
speaker who has spent many popular or the “life of the party.” These people stand out because if you might as well be invisible. Likeable people focus on the
years as a Certified Life Coach of their outgoing persona and ability to get along with all sorts person they’re with, giving him/her their full attention.
and has written numerous of folks. Don’t gossip – It’s hard to be likeable if you talk badly
articles and e-books relating My friend Joanne is like this. She is charming, genuine, about someone else. Gossip is talking negatively about a person
to self-improvement and ways helpful, and fun to be with. It’s no surprise that she’s the type of who is not present and therefore cannot defend herself. No one
to build a high-performance person you go to for advice or want to be with because you know wants to be the subject of gossip; it’s harmful and unkind. When
team. Her education and she’ll be there for you without judgment. If there’s a problem, I coached staff in a corporate environment, one of the hardest
years of experience in physical Joanne will come up with possible solutions; a complainer she’s things to curtail was gossiping. It creates dissension and ruins
fitness and training of elite not. relationships.
athletes has enabled her to Joanne is a master at listening and getting you to talk about Don’t spread rumors – Likeable people don’t tell a story
sharpen her knowledge in many health-related areas. The yourself without you even knowing it. How often have you had or piece of information that has not been verified. Rumors can
following is one in a series of columns devoted to many topics a great time chatting with someone and realize later that you be just as harmful as gossip and cause a chain reaction within
that deal with the mind/body connection and the importance know very little about the one you’ve been talking to? Chances a workplace or community that is unwarranted. If you want to
of living a healthy lifestyle. Dale, a Bocaire resident, can be are the other person listened and asked the questions while you be liked, stay clear of both gossip and spreading rumors…not a
reached at dalebrown@lovingmondays.com. happily shared your story. nice thing to do! Likeable people don’t allow themselves to be
What is it that makes someone likeable? I’ve talked about Being liked has a lot to do with attitude. Unlike the whiner drawn into either situation.
chronic complainers in the past, the type of person who finds fault who sees things in a negative light, a likeable person will see Follow Through – How many times have your plans
with every little thing, which is neither a desirable nor likeable the positive side. How you view life and its ups and downs is been spoiled because someone doesn’t come through with her
trait. a choice. So why not surround yourself with optimistic energy promise? Likeable people do what they say they’ll do and follow
Our world is made up of a variety of personalities, so I thought and distance yourself from negativity? through. It’s nice to know you can count on someone no matter
it only fair to shine light on the opposite type of individual, one Wish you could be more likeable? By studying the habits of how big or small the task or need.
who doesn’t complain and is easy to be with … someone likeable. likeable people, you might find some common habits that you Smile – Have you ever noticed how a baby reacts when you
may choose to acquire. Why not give it a try? smile or when you don’t? If you’re happy, the baby is happy
Be genuine – This is the number one rule I learned when too. When you don’t crack a smile, it makes you look mean and
studying to be an empowerment coach. Don’t try to be better than unwelcoming. It doesn’t take much effort to smile and it makes
anyone else; be open to new ideas and opinions. Always come such a difference, not only to those around you but to yourself
from a place of curiosity. Be real regardless of whom you’re with. as well. Likeable people love to laugh; it comes easily and it’s
People like you when you are down to earth and authentic. No contagious.
one likes a phony. Being likeable may not be as easy as it sounds. We all have
Be respectful – This means toward everyone, from the our shortcomings that show up every once in a while. Wouldn’t
cashier at checkout to the valet driver, to your family and it be wonderful if everybody did their best to follow some of the
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like to be treated. They are more interested in your comfort level world around you a more pleasant place.
than their own. In the words of Oprah Winfrey, “I had no idea that being
Make eye contact – Have you ever had a conversation your authentic self could make me as rich as I’ve become. If I
with someone who is not looking you in the eyes? He might be had, I’d have done it a lot earlier.”

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