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Boca Exposure, Page 7
The Single Scene Column

Decoding Our New Dating the Spring. Twenty/Twenty has been tough on us all, but it’s infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device
about to turn around! The second half of the year will make
in one way or another. How do you know if you have crossed
Language you smile with appreciation and hope. the line? If you are doing anything you would not want your
In the wake of our “new normal,” I have decided to bring partner knowing about (when it comes to dating or flirting)
By Kelly Leary, M.S., you up to date on the new “terms” being used on the dating like texting inappropriately, sending photos or sharing
Founder and President scene. As always, meeting through introduction by a friend is intimate feelings with anyone other than your “exclusive”
The love business is the best way to go...and that is what we recreate at my club. partner, then you are micro-cheating.
booming with new clients and So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next chapter of Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies quickly.
engagement notifications post- your life. Knowledge is power. The power of love knows You feel someone fell madly in love with you but they have
lockdown. I can’t count how no boundaries but first we must know who we are dating never met you or you met briefly. In this case you definitely
many dynamic duos will be and what goes on “Behind the Screens!” (Yikes). Online should think twice. Why is he or she falling so fast and they
enjoying the fireworks together daters beware today more than ever before...and social media barely know you? How many times have they done this
because of us. Summertime lovers...heed my advice. It’s just too easy to get into trouble before?
is the kick-off of The Cuffing if you are dating via the internet in any way. In this day and Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a
Season, the time when finding a age, dating begins and ends with our smart phones. So, let’s relationship by pretending to be someone else online or has
girlfriend or boyfriend becomes get smarter. greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often steal photos
even more appealing as the Learn the New Dating Dictionary, circa 2020: from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes even create multiple
countdown to the holidays is only six months away. Plus, Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with personas to make their stories more believable. They will
we are all a little more responsibly “free” than we were in another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional try to continue a “fake” relationship for months--always
avoiding a face-to-face meeting.
Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes
without a trace. You could have been dating a few days,
Endless indulgence. return your texts, and may even block you to avoid having
or months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t
the break-up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but sadly
common, especially with a vast array of dating apps at our
Every day. fingertips.
Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may

resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they
disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened, like
a revived corpse.
Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles
finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, anyone
can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many just feel
they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess what? They
can. This is a weak testimony to a real man or woman who
is looking to date sincerely as a romantic goal. If you feel
you are in this trap, get out quickly.
Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t
introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t post
anything about you on social media. Basically, you’re their
secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they feel justified in
“stashing” you on the shelf, pretending nothing is going on
to the outside world, and keeping their options open. If they
proclaim you as their romantic interest, they will have to
give up their search.
Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new
partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship,
you are at risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term,
where players are left on the bench as reserves, you might find
yourself being someone’s back-up option as they continue to
look around. They may come back to you if nobody better
comes along, but that doesn’t give one high hopes for the
relationship, does it?
If you are someone who has resisted dating because of
all of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT you do have to
stand up for what you want at some point and take a strong
calculated risk. Not everyone is obsessed with his or her
screens! Not everyone would risk his or her safety, money
or sanity on internet dating or blind flirting. You don’t have
to either. Don’t think of what you have to lose today, think
of what you have to gain. Be confident, smart, and carry on
You’ve eased into the dessert phase of life. The saving-the-best-for-now stage of life. my friend! It’s time you start dating smart too. You got this-
-and so do we!
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