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Lifestyles from page 18 desire for another completely “out of their league” which and are now ready to find new companionship (not
exaggerates their bad attitude as they are never satisfied. marriage per se). This group does very well in my club
While this statistic indicates a cause for concern, it Likelihood of resuming a (healthy) relationship is slim to as long as they avoid comparing their matches to their late
certainly doesn’t mean that you are necessarily headed for none. Open to change: minimal. This male or female may husband or wife. I have seen many widows and widowers
trouble – because there’s a lot you can do to help build and have been cheated on or took a large hit in life and never find love again in my club--and it is SO REWARDING.
manage enough resources to last a lifetime. Here are a few recovered. This person can be helped with some therapy My heart goes out to those who have found the key to
suggestions: or a complete change of attitude. However, a “revolution” happy marriage...and I know...as with the “HOPEFUL
• Consider your estimated longevity. On average, a becomes less likely the longer this person stays single. If this ROMANTICS” that there can be a chapter after a loss of
65-year-old man can expect to live another 17 years, while a is you, get moving while you’ve still got it. As it stands, with a spouse. This generation of seniors today (from 60s to
65-year-old woman can anticipate about 20 years, according no therapy or mindset change this person is undateworthy. the 80s), given the right circumstances and opportunity,
to the Centers for Disease Control. Of course, you’ll want to Many people online fall into this category. They are just can really have a ball. I see it all the time! I am not even
take into account your health and family history of longevity no fun to be around, right? You can make much better use afraid to age anymore! Thank you to all my seniors for
to arrive at a reasonable estimate. You can then use this figure of your time. being so cool and open minded to love/kinship after loss
to help determine how much money you’ll eventually need. The HopeFUL Romantic: Luckily “most” of the people of a spouse. It can happen.
To play it safe, you might even want to try to build an income I meet are this type of person (yeah). This male or female May all of your April Goals come true! Let’s give
stream that can last beyond your estimated lifespan, possibly has felt love in the most beautiful sense of the word. They you exciting moments to look forward to this coming
up to age 90. have also felt heartache but they continue to love more... summer. Take a moment to do something solely for YOU.
• Don’t overlook health care costs. When budgeting and they almost always do! WHY? Because they believe in Love, Kelly
for retirement, allow enough for your health care expenses, love AND they know they are lovable. This person knows the #LoveFest2022 #AimTrueIn2022 #LoveOffline
which can be considerable. Even with Medicare, you can benefits of love will ALWAYS outweigh the risks. Single, #WhyBeSingle #TellYourFriends #SheConnects
expect to spend anywhere from $4,500 to $6,500 per year, divorced, or widowed of ALL AGES this person has a high
per person, for traditional medical costs. Also, you may want success rate in my club and the odds are in their favor. This Kelly Leary’s career spans a successful three decades
to prepare for two to three years of long-term care expenses, person can be alone but their ultimate desire is to find their in the love business. In her 31 years of experience, she
which currently range from about $50,000 per year for home forever/grand finale love. has watched the dating scene morph drastically with
health care to over $100,000 per year for a private room in The Lucy Goosey: Typically female. Often found in the onset of online dating and she has witnessed a huge
a nursing home. bars or online dating sites and is rather desperate to find a boom in her longstanding private practice--especially
• Keep building assets for retirement. While you’re partner. Most divorced or never married and age 25 to 60. post pandemic. With her Master’s Degree in Clinical
working, constantly try to put away as much money as This single jumps from date to date rapidly. They confuse Psychology, with a Forensic Concentration, she has
possible for your retirement years. Each year your salary the physical aspects of intimacy with love and commitment revolutionized the industry. She has been profiled by
goes up, increase your contributions to your 401(k) or similar and are often left with feelings of rejection, insecurity, PalmBeacher Magazine, Stuart News, Boca Magazine,
employer-sponsored retirement plan. You may also want to jealousy...because she is rarely...if ever...the “chosen one.” The Palm Beach Post and other publications. Kelly was
contribute to an IRA, depending on your goals. And within She will date almost “anyone” who pays attention to her. also named “Florida Woman” in recent years. Her clients
your retirement savings, make sure you devote a reasonable This person is, well, desperate. I typically don’t meet this are prescreened first, including background checks.
percentage of your investment dollars to growth-oriented type of person in my office and I would rather not work with Professional client photos are taken in house. Revolution
vehicles that align with your goals and risk tolerance. this type--to be honest. It is too unattractive--as a character Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition
• Seek out sources of guaranteed income. As a retiree, trait--and they usually scare people off after one date. They to providing matchmaking services that make singles
you will receive Social Security benefits – and the longer are tough to be with on any level, frankly. I’m sure you know “UN-single” through their exclusive connections, Kelly
you wait before claiming them, the bigger your monthly the type. In their book of life it is never their fault. Blame is also involved in the charity community sponsoring
checks will be. But you might also consider investments that games abound. organizations like The Leukemia Lymphoma Society,
can provide a source of income you can’t outlive, such as The Even Steven: He is a total mess. Commonly Furry Friends, and Chasin’ A Dream Foundation. To
annuities. divorced or never married. Age 25 to 60. He is the male get started, simply call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or (772)
• Revisit your strategy before you retire. As you near counterpart of Lucy Goosey. He wants love and intimacy 932-HERE (4373) or register on her website at www.
retirement, you may want to review your investment strategy, but can’t seem to shake his past failures. This man blames revolutiondating.com.
possibly adjusting your risk level so that your portfolio would women for all his failings and suffers from great insecurity
be somewhat less susceptible to market volatility. This is also in and out of the bedroom. He may also over-compensate Cardio-Oncology
a good time to review your spending needs in retirement. for his weakness by seeking multiple notches in his head Monitors Cancer Patient’s
• Maintain a reasonable withdrawal rate. Once you board...to get “EVEN” with the opposite sex...trying to
are retired, you’ll likely need to start withdrawing from your desperately make himself “whole” again. He is rarely Cardiovascular Health Before,
401(k), IRA and other investment accounts. To avoid taking successful and noncommittal when all is said and done.
out too much money too early in your retirement, you’ll Most men like this prey in bars, online dating sites or the During, After Treatment
need to set a reasonable, sustainable withdrawal rate based social media area. Luckily again, I don’t meet many of
on your assets, age, and retirement lifestyle. A financial these social predators in my office. They are too happy with Thanks to newer and better forms of treatment, the number
advisor can help you determine an appropriate rate. the dark side of keyboard dating, which is more ominous. of people surviving cancer has improved over the years. There
It will take dedication and determination to help ensure Even Steven’s like to operate under the radar of responsible are currently 17 million cancer survivors in the United States,
your money doesn’t run out during your lifetime. But you’d authentic dating. and that number should increase to about 20 million in the
probably agree that it’s well worth the effort. The Past Life Blessed: Widow or widower of any age, next five years or so.
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