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The Singles Scene Column ©

By: Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder of Revolution Dating
Bring On The Boundaries!

Love is blind, especially during the honeymoon phase of dating person could be fresh out of a breakup, secretly in love with someone you into the bedroom when you are
when all seems miraculous. You feel like you have won the jackpot else, or financially challenged (looking for a sugar mommy or daddy). not ready is a bright red flag.
of love--but have you? It is important to keep your eyes wide open In my 31 years of experience in this magical love biz, I have mastered 2. He or she intentionally
in the early stages of courtship to save time and heartache in the long the art of screening our applicants. Thankfully, by the end of the first avoids “big picture” questions. It
run. Have a blast and enjoy your budding romance but don’t be fooled meeting, I know in my heart and head that a client is either date-worthy is easy to be in a relationship that
by flying red flags. As a relationship grows (somewhere between or not. Unfortunately, I can’t be a little bird on your shoulder when you moves forward comfortably, but do
months three and six), the “true self” begins to emerge. If the love was are out on the town doing this all by yourself or at home alone, so here you ask your partner about making
overwhelming and exciting, it could be easy to deny BIG warning signs. are seven relationship hacks to help guide you in the meantime. plans or other commitments in
Let your guard down but be FULLY AWARE of your worth and your 1. He or she rushes the relationship. If your romantic interest is too advance? Does he or she quickly
boundaries. This may include accepting that your chosen person is not busy to take the time to get to know you and develop a friendship first change the subject and avoid
“relationship ready” and no amount of “work” can make it better. This this is a sign of relational immaturity and possibly insincerity. Rushing answering? If so, this is a clear
sign that he or she probably does
not see you as an item in the future.
This could be either a dead-end relationship or a sideways relationship
(meaning going nowhere). Let’s not forget: none of us are getting any
younger. Time to GO!
3. His or her attitude frequently turns on a dime. Does your
boyfriend or girlfriend vacillate from being happy-go-lucky to the
Incredible Hulk, then back to a fuzzy teddy bear with no apology or
explanation? This type of personality is not good. Stability is important
in any relationship and you don’t want to feel like you’re walking on
eggshells because you are unsure about how your partner will react
from moment to moment. This will create a constant state of insecurity.
THIS will only get worse.
4. He or she refuses to make your relationship “public.” Some
people like to take their time and get to know their new beau before
introducing them to their parents, kids, etc., but after a reasonable
amount of time, if you have not met his or her friends and family that
is a red flag. If this person will not post photos of you as a couple on
social media...be SURE there is a problem...especially if you are posting
photos on your social media. This is grounds for a “we need to have a
talk” session.
5. He or she has little to no work ethic. Everyone has a different
level of ambition, but when you notice your date has not hit life
milestones (owning a house or having a long-term job) ask yourself if
this person is a good catch. He or she could be using you too! Realize:
75% of the people online or in bars are dating for financial gains. If
this person doesn’t have their life together by a certain age and you do,
you should walk away! You have too much to lose.
6. He or she refers to all of their exes as “crazy.” Some
relationships do end badly and it is easy to say that it was always the
other person’s fault, however it takes two to tango. When someone
proclaims that ALL of the exes are “crazy” it is a sign that they are the
problem. On the other hand, if your new girl or guy speaks highly of
their exes, and has good things to say about them...consider that a good
sign (as long as they don’t talk about their ex too much).
7. He or she drives a wedge between you and your family or
friends. This person is most likely a control freak or a narcissist or both.
This person can’t stand it when you are not paying attention to them...
and they often will bash your friends and family to isolate you. Your
friends will notice this quickly...listen to them. This person is trying to
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If you identify with one or more of these principles, don’t be afraid

to confront your person and/or end the relationship boldly and quickly.
Ask Us!!! Captain your ship or be captained (by the wrong one). Choosing the
right partner in life is everything...it can make or break you and your
future. Change is a good thing and the universe will reward you for
taking care of yourself. Freeing yourself from a doomed relationship
will only allow a better love to enter your life. Just think, when one door
closes, another door will open. It always does...and I have THREE red
doors for you to walk through in my office on PGA Boulevard where
we have happily been for close to ten years now. Clearly, we are doing
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made for you and your pets! I know I helped you today, and I can’t wait to continue this journey
with you! If you are paired off, do continue to share this column with
• Compression Hosiery your single-family and friends like you have for so many years. Thank
you for following the matchmaker as always.
• Wheelchairs, Walkers, Canes Spread the love--the world needs more--right? XoXo, Kelly
Talk Soon!
TequesTa Drugs anD Holiday Season 2022 and play it forward! Starting this process in
P.S. Friendly reminder to get a head start on the up and coming

September will increase your odds of finding the right one in time for the
CompounDing most social party season of the year. #FallInLove #WhyWaitJustDate
#TellYourFriends #MenMagnets
Kelly Leary has 31 years in the dating industry and a master’s

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Post, Jupiter Magazine, Stuart News and has been a Cover Girl
for Florida Woman Magazine among many other publications.
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