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                                             The Singles Scene Column                                            ©

                                                           By: Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder of Revolution Dating
                                                            Bring On The Boundaries!

         Love is blind, especially during the honeymoon phase of dating   person could be fresh out of a breakup, secretly in love with someone   you into the bedroom when you are
      when all seems miraculous. You feel like you have won the jackpot   else, or financially challenged (looking for a sugar mommy or daddy).   not ready is a bright red flag.
      of love--but have you? It is important to keep your eyes wide open   In my 31 years of experience in this magical love biz, I have mastered      2. He or she intentionally
      in the early stages of courtship to save time and heartache in the long   the art of screening our applicants. Thankfully, by the end of the first   avoids “big picture” questions. It
      run. Have a blast and enjoy your budding romance but don’t be fooled   meeting, I know in my heart and head that a client is either date-worthy   is easy to be in a relationship that
      by flying red flags. As a relationship grows (somewhere between   or not. Unfortunately, I can’t be a little bird on your shoulder when you   moves forward comfortably, but do
      months three and six), the “true self” begins to emerge. If the love was   are out on the town doing this all by yourself or at home alone, so here   you ask your partner about making
      overwhelming and exciting, it could be easy to deny BIG warning signs.   are seven relationship hacks to help guide you in the meantime.   plans or other commitments in
      Let your guard down but be FULLY AWARE of your worth and your      1. He or she rushes the relationship. If your romantic interest is too   advance? Does he or she quickly
      boundaries. This may include accepting that your chosen person is not   busy to take the time to get to know you and develop a friendship first   change the subject and avoid
      “relationship ready” and no amount of “work” can make it better. This   this is a sign of relational immaturity and possibly insincerity. Rushing   answering? If so, this is a clear
                                                                                                           sign that he or she probably does
                                                                                                           not see you as an item in the future.
                                                                                                           This could be either a dead-end relationship or a sideways relationship
                                                                                                           (meaning going nowhere). Let’s not forget: none of us are getting any
                                                                                                           younger. Time to GO!
                                                                                                              3. His or her attitude frequently turns on a dime. Does your
                                                                                                           boyfriend or girlfriend vacillate from being happy-go-lucky to the
                                                                                                           Incredible Hulk, then back to a fuzzy teddy bear with no apology or
                                                                                                           explanation? This type of personality is not good. Stability is important
                                                                                                           in any relationship and you don’t want to feel like you’re walking on
                                                                                                           eggshells because you are unsure about how your partner will react
                                                                                                           from moment to moment. This will create a constant state of insecurity.
                                                                                                           THIS will only get worse.
                                                                                                              4. He or she refuses to make your relationship “public.” Some
                                                                                                           people like to take their time and get to know their new beau before
                                                                                                           introducing them to their parents, kids, etc., but after a reasonable
                                                                                                           amount of time, if you have not met his or her friends and family that
                                                                                                           is a red flag. If this person will not post photos of you as a couple on
                                                                                                           social SURE there is a problem...especially if you are posting
                                                                                                           photos on your social media. This is grounds for a “we need to have a
                                                                                                           talk” session.
                                                                                                              5. He or she has little to no work ethic. Everyone has a different
                                                                                                           level of ambition, but when you notice your date has not hit life
                                                                                                           milestones (owning a house or having a long-term job) ask yourself if
                                                                                                           this person is a good catch. He or she could be using you too! Realize:
                                                                                                           75% of the people online or in bars are dating for financial gains. If
                                                                                                           this person doesn’t have their life together by a certain age and you do,
                                                                                                           you should walk away! You have too much to lose.
                                                                                                              6. He or she refers to all of their exes as “crazy.” Some
                                                                                                           relationships do end badly and it is easy to say that it was always the
                                                                                                           other person’s fault, however it takes two to tango. When someone
                                                                                                           proclaims that ALL of the exes are “crazy” it is a sign that they are the
                                                                                                           problem. On the other hand, if your new girl or guy speaks highly of
                                                                                                           their exes, and has good things to say about them...consider that a good
                                                                                                           sign (as long as they don’t talk about their ex too much).
                                                                                                              7. He or she drives a wedge between you and your family or
                                                                                                           friends. This person is most likely a control freak or a narcissist or both.
                                                                                                           This person can’t stand it when you are not paying attention to them...
                                                                                                           and they often will bash your friends and family to isolate you. Your
                                                                                                           friends will notice this quickly...listen to them. This person is trying to
                   All Natural Pain Medicine                                                               control your life. Don’t let it happen!
                                                                                                             If you identify with one or more of these principles, don’t be afraid

                                                                                                           to confront your person and/or end the relationship boldly and quickly.
                                  Ask Us!!!                                                                Captain your ship or be captained (by the wrong one). Choosing the
                                                                                                           right partner in life is can make or break you and your
                                                                                                           future. Change is a good thing and the universe will reward you for
                                                                                                           taking care of yourself. Freeing yourself from a doomed relationship
                                                                                                           will only allow a better love to enter your life. Just think, when one door
                                                                                                           closes, another door will open. It always does...and I have THREE red
                                                                                                           doors for you to walk through in my office on PGA Boulevard where
                                                                                                           we have happily been for close to ten years now. Clearly, we are doing
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                                                                                                           one step closer to getting it right!
                     made for you and your pets!                                                              I know I helped you today, and I can’t wait to continue this journey
                                                                                                           with you! If you are paired off, do continue to share this column with
                          • Compression Hosiery                                                            your single-family and friends like you have for so many years. Thank
                                                                                                           you for following the matchmaker as always.
                    • Wheelchairs, Walkers, Canes                                                             Spread the love--the world needs more--right?  XoXo, Kelly
                                                                                                                                                   Talk Soon!
                  TequesTa Drugs anD                                                                         Holiday Season 2022 and play it forward! Starting this process in
                                                                                                             P.S. Friendly reminder to get a head start on the up and coming

                                                                                                           September will increase your odds of finding the right one in time for the
                          CompounDing                                                                      most social party season of the year. #FallInLove #WhyWaitJustDate
                                                                                                           #TellYourFriends #MenMagnets
                                                                                                             Kelly Leary  has 31 years in the dating industry and a master’s

                                                                                                           degree in psychology. She’s been profiled by The Palm Beach
                                                                                                           Post, Jupiter Magazine, Stuart News and has been a Cover Girl
                                                                                                           for Florida Woman Magazine among many other publications.
                        The Pharmacy With A                                                                All Revolution Dating clients are prescreened in person in their
                                                                                                           private offices. Professional photos are taken by the staff. Revolution
                                                                                                           Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing
                                                                                                           matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single” through their
                                                                                                           exclusive membership, Kelly and her incredible team also provide
                                                                                                           date coaching and feedback. They will even style you by request!
                                                                                                           Each membership is custom-made to suit you and your needs. For
                                                                                                           more information, please call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or (772) 932-
                                                                                                           HERE (4373) or visit us at This is all
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