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First Female Harvard Business School Chair

Advice For Women except for our marvelous doctors and scientists. You can’t ignoring all the other tantalizing paths they could take
“In healthcare, I’ve been an equal opportunity offender,
outside that organization and leaving themselves open
– And Men do that without stirring up some red-hot hostility from to career failure as they put all their eggs in one basket.
those whose livelihood is imperiled as control shifts from Fight the desire to be liked. Embrace the desire to
By Gustavo A. Mellander, AB, MA, Ph.D., D.H.L. them to consumers. Being a woman did not help … but I be respected and make a difference. While we tend to
March celebrated the contributions of women in all segments didn’t let it stop me.” naturally want to be liked, respect and influence come
of our society. It has been impressive. Her suggestions for women and men as well are more from competence than likeability.
The fight for equality received a boost doing the Second World noteworthy. I list some of her salient insights. Lessons “Instead of worrying about whether people like you,
War when women assumed and succeeded in “male professions.” she’d like younger women to take to heart – “If I were focus on getting really, really good at what you do. And
It has continued since then but much is yet to be accomplished to sum up my advice, it would be: It doesn’t happen by make sure your work is data-driven.”
I was impressed to read about Professor Regina Herzlinger, accident. Get clear on what you want—the earlier on the Don’t be a “mother.” She doesn’t mean women
the first woman to earn tenure and later chair the Harvard better—think big, and go after it.” shouldn’t have children. (She has two.) But she points out
Business School (HBS). She was also the first faculty member Get very clear on what you want to do. Let that drive is that some women present in a maternal way, concerned
selected by students as their best instructor. your decisions. Herzlinger knew early that she wanted to more with coaching and support than mission.
Money magazine dubbed her “godmother of consumer- develop consumer-driven healthcare innovation. Every “Women, should be as mission-driven and forceful as
driven healthcare” for her groundbreaking research which decision she made was geared in that direction. men. If not, they will find themselves in the role of taking
challenged the massive healthcare sector. She criticized Think big. Imagine all the possible paths that can get care of everyone, instead of focusing on their priorities.”
the status quo which derogatorily described the public as you to where you want to go. Too often, employees in But do smile. “No matter what you’re doing, even if it’s
non-compliant and illiterate. an organization just think about climbing up that ladder, something unpleasant like giving bad news, always smile.
Not like a fake smiley face, but always try to find a way
The Singles Scene Column © to present things in a positive light.”

When you hit a dead end, move on quickly. When first
hired at HBS the school focused on teaching excellence,
Gentlemen, Start Your of you. Never arrive at her house empty-handed. These women weren’t allowed to teach. Her goal was to be
an HBS professor, faced with a no-win career path, she
Engines! signals will tell her you are into her! This is key to dating resigned. A dean asked her to return and agreed she would
and courtship. Don’t hate the players, hate the game! It is
what it is, gentlemen. Don’t let your ego keep you single.” teach.

“When you value yourself, it makes others value you,”
By: Kelly Leary, M.S., (Tina, 55-year-old School Principal) she observes.
CEO/Head Matchmaker When possible, insist on a public, consumer-driven
Happy Mother’s Day 9. “Be yourself. Don’t try to be someone else. Sooner metric for evaluations. It’s hard to argue with consumer
to all of our favorite or later, the real you is bound to come out, so aim true. If data. “My student evaluations were pretty darn good. That
mothers, grandmothers, she is a keeper, and your “truths” collide, you will know made all the difference. I was in the top-rated position and
fur moms, and soon-to-be it in your heart.” (Vera, 60-year-old Doctor) was the first faculty member to be selected by students
mothers! I am touched by as their best instructor.”
all the amazing women 10. “Chivalry is NOT dead. It’s alive and well, and men Don’t let hardship hold you back. Let it transform you
that I know and admire need to accept this fact if they want a beautiful woman by into a warrior. Her father, a businessman, had to start
The Singles Scene Column ©
(Tina, 55-year-old School Principal)
and courtship. Don’t hate the players, hate the game! It is
of you. Never arrive at her house empty-handed. These
what it is, gentlemen. Don’t let your ego keep you single.”
signals will tell her you are into her! This is key to dating
Gentlemen, Start Your
Engines!
By: Kelly Leary, M.S.,
CEO/Head Matchmaker
to all of our favorite
Happy Mother’s Day

mothers, grandmothers,
fur moms, and soon-to-be
mothers! I am touched by
it in your heart.” (Vera, 60-year-old Doctor)
she is a keeper, and your “truths” collide, you will know
or later, the real you is bound to come out, so aim true. If
9. “Be yourself. Don’t try to be someone else. Sooner

their side.” (Katie, 43-year-old Pharmaceutical Rep)
need to accept this fact if they want a beautiful woman by
10. “Chivalry is NOT dead. It’s alive and well, and men

If these ten tips are followed in your budding courtships
dating club. With so many
that I know and admire
in and out of this popular
following this column, I feel compelled to make this or relationships this month, you are destined to maintain a
of our clients and friends
all the amazing women
she is your mother, wife, first date, girlfriend, or someone the bedroom to the boardroom, but the needs of the heart
the woman in your life is happy, you are happy!” Whether feel and pay attention to our needs. We all have needs, from
better than ever, and you will win too! As they say: “If the world open up for you! Honor us. Show us how you
for us ladies! GENTLEMEN treat the ladies in your life we deserve it too, so bend over backward (for us) and watch
month wonderful for all--thus making it an extra win happy month for yourself. Since so many of us are Mothers,
In honor of Mother’s Day, I am giving all women
the club and they have great advice for you handsome than being single in the summer--especially in Florida!
are the most precious. If you do not have a love interest
this month, call the pros today...before the “Summer
and smart men. Please enjoy and practice these top 10

I’ve interviewed several of my favorite women in of Love 2023” kicks off without you. Nothing is worse
dating and relationship tips from the women clientele
you have your eye on...treat her EXTRA special this May.
of Revolution Dating:
1. “Many of us ladies just want the little things. For appointment with your matchmaker. What a great time to
in and out of this popular their side.” (Katie, 43-year-old Pharmaceutical Rep) all over again at age 60. She watched him set goals for

have air, gas in the tank, and our car windows are clean.” the love around you and welcome more. I can’t wait to meet
(and men) a $500 credit towards your membership at our
dating club--but do mention this when you reserve your
example, open the car door for us. Make sure our tires get revolutionary...amidst a “man training” session! Enjoy
you! Our hotlines are open seven days a week with expert

(Ruth, 65-year-old Retired Business Woman)
(Rebecca, 27-year-old Account Exec)

3. “Buy us something very expensive and totally
pros that you can speak to LIVE! Just follow the prompts!
XoXo, Kelly (aka THE Florida Matchmaker, Est. 1991)
2. “It is ALWAYS flattering when you compliment us.” Ready. Set. Meow.
useless.” (Sarah, 31-year-old CEO)

4. “Send flowers for Mother’s Day...especially if she only live once.
is YOUR romantic interest and she happens to be a Mom
or Grandma for example! Also, send flowers to your mom #FindSustainableLove #GetIntroduced #BeYourChange
red carpet treatment from me. Have a blast, everyone. You
P.S. Stay tuned for next month’s issue when MEN get the
too.” (Kim, 41-year-old Business Owner)
down. TAKE A RISK. What do you have to lose?” (Susan, a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She has been profiled
51-year-old Financial Advisor)
5. “Be confident, gutsy, and truthful. Take your guard
Kelly Leary© has 32 years in the dating industry and

by The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine,
Boca Magazine, The South Florida Business Journal,
#DateLocal #ThisIsOrganic #TellYourFriends

(Jennifer, 37-year-old Lawyer)

7. “Men chase women. It’s biblical...so chase her...
6. “Chivalry is key to all women! Once a man loses The Stuart News, and many other publications. All
including background checks. Professional member
online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing
this ability, he loses everything, including his manhood.” Revolution Dating members are prescreened first,
photos are taken by in-house. Revolution Dating is not
pursue her...claim the one you want and let her know how matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single”

on. This is more simple than you think.” (Yours Truly)
you feel. If she is interested, she is yours. If she is not, move through their exclusive membership, this club provides
wild world of dating today. For more information,
8. “Make sure your girl knows you are into her, please call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or (772) 932-HERE
especially when you are an “item.” Send her flowers (4373). All inquiries are confidential.
outstanding dating feedback which is essential in this
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dating club. With so many himself and live up to them. She attributes her dogged
of our clients and friends If these ten tips are followed in your budding courtships determination to growing up amid turmoil.
“Hardship awakens a warrior spirit. It makes people

following this column, I feel compelled to make this or relationships this month, you are destined to maintain a strong and fearless.”
month wonderful for all--thus making it an extra win happy month for yourself. Since so many of us are Mothers, Be a lifelong learner. It helps you connect seemingly
for us ladies! GENTLEMEN treat the ladies in your life we deserve it too, so bend over backward (for us) and watch unconnected dots. This skill is the very soul of innovation.
better than ever, and you will win too! As they say: “If the world open up for you! Honor us. Show us how you Herzlinger credits her success as an innovator to her
the woman in your life is happy, you are happy!” Whether feel and pay attention to our needs. We all have needs, from reading and networking habits.
she is your mother, wife, first date, girlfriend, or someone the bedroom to the boardroom, but the needs of the heart “I try to cover all my bases. It’s what I’m interested
you have your eye on...treat her EXTRA special this May. are the most precious. If you do not have a love interest in. I know my stuff. Being informed helps me to do work
this month, call the pros today...before the “Summer that connects dots that aren’t immediately obvious.”
I’ve interviewed several of my favorite women in of Love 2023” kicks off without you. Nothing is worse Make sure you understand finance. No matter what
the club and they have great advice for you handsome than being single in the summer--especially in Florida! field you enter or what role you seek, if you truly want to
and smart men. Please enjoy and practice these top 10 be successful, you need a good command of accounting
and finance.
dating and relationship tips from the women clientele In honor of Mother’s Day, I am giving all women “I have met leaders who can’t read financial statements.
of Revolution Dating: (and men) a $500 credit towards your membership at our It’s as if they’re handcuffed. For-profit or nonprofit, you
dating club--but do mention this when you reserve your need to understand how to make money.”
1. “Many of us ladies just want the little things. For appointment with your matchmaker. What a great time to Every piece of your career is an opportunity to make a
example, open the car door for us. Make sure our tires get revolutionary...amidst a “man training” session! Enjoy connection. Pay attention. You never know who you might
have air, gas in the tank, and our car windows are clean.” the love around you and welcome more. I can’t wait to meet collaborate with. Many of her professional connections
(Ruth, 65-year-old Retired Business Woman) you! Our hotlines are open seven days a week with expert came from her students.
pros that you can speak to LIVE! Just follow the prompts! “Many of my students do amazing things. They get in
2. “It is ALWAYS flattering when you compliment us.” Ready. Set. Meow. touch and bring me in on projects. Much of the work I’ve
(Rebecca, 27-year-old Account Exec) done with Congress came through my former students.”
XoXo, Kelly (aka THE Florida Matchmaker, Est. 1991) Develop all parts of your personality. Herzlinger isn’t
3. “Buy us something very expensive and totally consumed with being liked, that doesn’t mean she isn’t.
useless.” (Sarah, 31-year-old CEO) P.S. Stay tuned for next month’s issue when MEN get the Despite being an intellectual with an extremely sharp
mind and a grasp of highly complex subject matter, she
red carpet treatment from me. Have a blast, everyone. You is known for her sense of humor.
4. “Send flowers for Mother’s Day...especially if she only live once. “When you teach tough, data-laden, strategic business
is YOUR romantic interest and she happens to be a Mom subjects, you’d better be funny!” she says.
or Grandma for example! Also, send flowers to your mom #FindSustainableLove #GetIntroduced #BeYourChange Her last piece of advice: “Let your personality shine
too.” (Kim, 41-year-old Business Owner) #DateLocal #ThisIsOrganic #TellYourFriends through. Be authentic and open. Don’t be so fixated on
wearing the mantle of ‘the successful woman’ that you
5. “Be confident, gutsy, and truthful. Take your guard Kelly Leary© has 32 years in the dating industry and lose who you are. We sometimes forget to enjoy the
down. TAKE A RISK. What do you have to lose?” (Susan, a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She has been profiled journey. Not being afraid to be ourselves not only draws
51-year-old Financial Advisor) by The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, others to us, but it also makes for a better life.”
Boca Magazine, The South Florida Business Journal, Bottom line. Sage advice for everyone:
6. “Chivalry is key to all women! Once a man loses The Stuart News, and many other publications. All Discover who you are and then be yourself.
this ability, he loses everything, including his manhood.” Revolution Dating members are prescreened first, Have a plan, go for it.
Understand accounting and finance.
(Jennifer, 37-year-old Lawyer) including background checks. Professional member Expect challenges, learn to love them.
photos are taken by in-house. Revolution Dating is not Cultivate connections.
7. “Men chase women. It’s biblical...so chase her... online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing Be a lifelong student.
pursue her...claim the one you want and let her know how matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single” Enjoy the journey.
you feel. If she is interested, she is yours. If she is not, move through their exclusive membership, this club provides Look her up, she is all over the Internet including
on. This is more simple than you think.” (Yours Truly) outstanding dating feedback which is essential in this videos on YouTube.
wild world of dating today. For more information,
8. “Make sure your girl knows you are into her, please call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or (772) 932-HERE
especially when you are an “item.” Send her flowers (4373). All inquiries are confidential.
(even if it’s not a holiday). Book a vacation for the two
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