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The Single Scene Column

Decoding Our New Dating Language

By Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder and President
The love business infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device just feel they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess
is booming with new in one way or another. How do you know if you have what? They can. This is a weak testimony to a real man
clients and engagement crossed the line? If you are doing anything you would not or woman who is looking to date sincerely as a romantic
no t i fi c a t i on s po st - want your partner knowing about (when it comes to dating goal. If you feel you are in this trap, get out quickly.
lockdown. I can’t count how or flirting) like texting inappropriately, sending photos Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t
many dynamic duos will or sharing intimate feelings with anyone other than your introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t post
be enjoying the fireworks “exclusive” partner, then you are micro-cheating. anything about you on social media. Basically, you’re their
together because of us. Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they feel justified in
Summertime is the kick- quickly. You feel someone fell madly in love with you but “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending nothing is going
off of The Cuffing Season, they have never met you or you met briefly. In this case on to the outside world, and keeping their options open.
the time when finding a you definitely should think twice. Why is he or she falling If they proclaim you as their romantic interest, they will
girlfriend or boyfriend so fast and they barely know you? How many times have have to give up their search.
becomes even more appealing as the countdown to the they done this before? Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new
holidays is only six months away. Plus, we are all a little Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a partner about whether you are in an exclusive relationship,
more responsibly “free” than we were in the Spring. relationship by pretending to be someone else online or you are at risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term,
Twenty/Twenty has been tough on us all, but it’s about to has greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often steal where players are left on the bench as reserves, you might
turn around! The second half of the year will make you photos from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes even create find yourself being someone’s back-up option as they
smile with appreciation and hope. multiple personas to make their stories more believable. continue to look around. They may come back to you if
In the wake of our “new normal,” I have decided to They will try to continue a “fake” relationship for months- nobody better comes along, but that doesn’t give one high
bring you up to date on the new “terms” being used on -always avoiding a face-to-face meeting. hopes for the relationship, does it?
the dating scene. As always, meeting through introduction Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes If you are someone who has resisted dating because
by a friend is the best way to go...and that is what we without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, of all of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT you do have
recreate at my club. So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and or months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t to stand up for what you want at some point and take a
enjoy the next chapter of your life. Knowledge is power. return your texts, and may even block you to avoid having strong calculated risk. Not everyone is obsessed with his
The power of love knows no boundaries but first we must the break-up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but or her screens! Not everyone would risk his or her safety,
know who we are dating and what goes on “Behind the sadly common, especially with a vast array of dating apps money or sanity on internet dating or blind flirting. You
Screens!” (Yikes). Online daters beware today more than at our fingertips. don’t have to either. Don’t think of what you have to lose
ever before...and social media lovers...heed my advice. Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may today, think of what you have to gain. Be confident, smart,
It’s just too easy to get into trouble if you are dating via resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they and carry on my friend! It’s time you start dating smart
the internet in any way. In this day and age, dating begins disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened, too. You got this--and so do we!
and ends with our smart phones. So, let’s get smarter. like a revived corpse. Let’s claim some internet-independence!
Learn the New Dating Dictionary, circa 2020: Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles XOXO,
Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, Kelly
another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional anyone can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a
master’s degree in psychology and 29 successful years
in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as
THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC
News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine,
The South Florida Business Journal, and numerous other
media outlets. Please call our hotlines seven days a week
at 561-630-XOXO (9696) in the Palm Beaches and South
Florida area or 772-932-HERE (4373) on the Treasure
Coast. You may also visit our informational only website at
www.revolutiondating.com. All inquiries are confidential.
All applicants must be prescreened in person at our private
practice to be eligible. This is NOT online dating.
Around Town Photos.

July 2020.

One of the BEST ways to find love is by introduction
through a friend. Say no more. A photo speaks 1000 words!
Happy Fourth of July from Revolution Dating!