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The Singles Scene Column © moment. This will create a constant state of insecurity. THIS P.S. Friendly reminder to get a head start on the up and
will only get worse. coming Holiday Season 2022 and play it forward! Starting
By: Kelly Leary, M.S., 4. He or she refuses to make your relationship “public.” this process in September will increase your odds of finding
Founder of Revolution Dating Some people like to take their time and get to know their new the right one in time for the most social party season of the
beau before introducing them to their parents, kids, etc., but year. #FallInLove #WhyWaitJustDate #TellYourFriends
Bring On The after a reasonable amount of time, if you have not met his or her #MenMagnets
Boundaries! friends and family that is a red flag. If this person will not post Kelly Leary has 31 years in the dating industry and a
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Love is blind, especially photos of you as a couple on social media...be SURE there is master’s degree in psychology. She’s been profiled by The
during the honeymoon phase a problem...especially if you are posting photos on your social Palm Beach Post, Jupiter Magazine, Stuart News and has
of dating when all seems media. This is grounds for a “we need to have a talk” session. been a Cover Girl for Florida Woman Magazine among
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better. This person could be fresh out of a breakup, secretly or guy speaks highly of their exes, and has good things to say
in love with someone else, or financially challenged (looking about them...consider that a good sign (as long as they don’t talk
for a sugar mommy or daddy). In my 31 years of experience about their ex too much). spotliGht
in this magical love biz, I have mastered the art of screening 7. He or she drives a wedge between you and your
our applicants. Thankfully, by the end of the first meeting, I family or friends. This person is most likely a control freak
know in my heart and head that a client is either date-worthy or a narcissist or both. This person can’t stand it when you are
or not. Unfortunately, I can’t be a little bird on your shoulder not paying attention to them...and they often will bash your Kelley Decowski
when you are out on the town doing this all by yourself or at friends and family to isolate you. Your friends will notice this
home alone, so here are seven relationship hacks to help guide quickly...listen to them. This person is trying to control your Joins EFMC Board
you in the meantime. life. Don’t let it happen!
1. He or she rushes the relationship. If your romantic If you identify with one or more of these principles, don’t By Jackie Holfelder
interest is too busy to take the time to get to know you and be afraid to confront your person and/or end the relationship Kelley Decowski, an
develop a friendship first this is a sign of relational immaturity boldly and quickly. Captain your ship or be captained (by the award-winning realtor at RE/
and possibly insincerity. Rushing you into the bedroom when wrong one). Choosing the right partner in life is everything...it MAX of Stuart, has joined
you are not ready is a bright red flag. can make or break you and your future. Change is a good thing the board of directors of the
2. He or she intentionally avoids “big picture” questions. and the universe will reward you for taking care of yourself. Education Foundation of
It is easy to be in a relationship that moves forward comfortably, Freeing yourself from a doomed relationship will only allow a Martin County (EFMC).
but do you ask your partner about making plans or other better love to enter your life. Just think, when one door closes, Lisa Rhodes, executive
commitments in advance? Does he or she quickly change the another door will open. It always does...and I have THREE red director of the nonprofit
subject and avoid answering? If so, this is a clear sign that he doors for you to walk through in my office on PGA Boulevard shared news that the Palm
or she probably does not see you as an item in the future. This where we have happily been for close to ten years now. Clearly, City resident has become
could be either a dead-end relationship or a sideways relationship we are doing some fabulous work and we can’t wait to meet you part of the team that enriches
(meaning going nowhere). Let’s not forget: none of us are getting too! You are now one step closer to getting it right! and enhances educational Kelley Decowski. Provided
any younger. Time to GO! I know I helped you today, and I can’t wait to continue opportunities for all students by Education Foundation of
3. His or her attitude frequently turns on a dime. Does this journey with you! If you are paired off, do continue to and teachers in the Martin Martin County
your boyfriend or girlfriend vacillate from being happy-go- share this column with your single-family and friends like County School District,
lucky to the Incredible Hulk, then back to a fuzzy teddy bear you have for so many years. Thank you for following the through effective fundraising efforts, positive collaborative
with no apology or explanation? This type of personality is not matchmaker as always. partnerships, innovative programming, and efficient allocation
good. Stability is important in any relationship and you don’t Spread the love--the world needs more--right? of resources.
want to feel like you’re walking on eggshells because you Talk Soon! Decowski is a product of the Martin County School
are unsure about how your partner will react from moment to XoXo, Kelly District, graduating from Martin County High School in 1993.
She went on to earn a Bachelor of Arts in communicative
disorders and a Master of Arts in English education from
October 11th University of Central Florida.

After working in real estate from 1997 to 2004, Decowksi
taught in public schools in Orange and Martin counties from
2004 to 2014, before re-entering the world of real estate as a
full-time agent in 2014.
Last day to register to vote for the November 8th of Stuart, she’s also known for philanthropic endeavors, which
As team leader at The Kelley Decowski Team at RE/MAX
General Election have always included education. She says she joined the EFMC
board “in order to work with other like-minded individuals
who want nothing more than to see our schools succeed.”
El 11 de octubre es el último día para registrarse para votar en las elecciones generales del 8 de noviembre Decowski is a former board member of Children’s
Museum of the Treasure Coast, past president of Hibiscus
Children’s Center Guild, supporter of Martin County High
School and Gertrude Walden Child Care Center. She’s also
Register to Vote a member of Cleveland Clinic/Martin Health System’s Mum
Ball committee.
Online at Her two children, Tyler and Sarah, are learning to follow
in the footsteps of their community-minded mom who says,
Register to Vote Online at “I think it’s really important for kids to learn about social
responsibility from an early age. There are all sorts of ways
RegisterToVoteFlorida.gov we can help other people and it’s not always monetary.

Regístrese para votar en línea en www.RegisterToVoteFlorida.gov Sometimes the best gift we can give is our time.”

In her spare time, Decowski loves to run and is an avid
reader.
She’s looking forward to working with the EFMC Board
of Directors under the direction of EFMC’s new executive
committee, Kate Cotner, president; Patrick McNealy, first
vice president; Karina Talalay, second vice president; Michael
Moehring, treasurer; Tyson Waters, secretary; and Arati
Hammond, immediate past-president, to ensure that the not-
for-profit, 501(c)(3), community investment organization
Martin County Supervisor of Elections: 772-288-5637 | MartinVotes.gov comprised of business leaders, community volunteers, and
Supervisor de Elecciones del Condado de Martin school officials has its most successful year ever.
To learn more about the Education Foundation of Martin
County, visit www.educationfoundationmc.org.