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From The Editor:

The Time For Resolutions…

New Year’s Eve, 1962 I the negotiations failed, the buses and subways halted service As Midnight approached, Aunt Carmel walked to the closet
spent at my Aunt Carmel’s at midnight, December 31st and all the revelers had to find and took out a broom. She went to the front door, opened it
home along with my mother other transportation home. and swept out the old year. Illness and the death of a loved one
and sister. My father was 1962 had been a particularly challenging year for my aunt. precipitated Aunt Carmel’s sweeping out of 1962. She was the
not with us because he was Actually Carmel was not my aunt but out of respect my parents eternal optimist and always had a big smile on her face. 1963
negotiating the contract always had us refer to their closest friends for many years as would be a better year.
between the City of New “aunt and uncle” and their children were our “cousins.” There Every New Year’s Eve I think of Aunt Carmel. It is a time
York and the Transport was Aunt Carmel and Uncle Gabe, Aunt Jo and Uncle Tom, of reflection for all of us. The calendar forces us to do so since
Workers Union. He was on Aunt Bea and Uncle Phil, Aunt Jo and Uncle Frank, Aunt Ruth it marks an end and a beginning in our lives. The media in
the Board of Directors of the (a former Miss Connecticut in the Miss America Pageant) and December has every conceivable list of bests and worsts of the
Union. Contract renewal was Uncle Saul. Aunt Ottilia and Uncle Abe were actually married year. Television, radio, newspapers and magazines focus our
January 1st and negotiations on a television show in the 1950’s called “Bride and Groom” attention to the change and we hear discussions of resolutions.
always continued into the late hours of December 31st and and received prizes to start their life together after the show’s When people are asked if they have made resolutions, they
the early hours of the next morning. If the negotiations producer read a letter describing how Abe had been a survivor usually respond with a list or they say, “I am going to …..” I
succeeded, documents were prepared and signed and then of a Nazi concentration camp. The tattoo number on Uncle never hear, “I resolve to …….”
the union members voted for ratification at a later date. If Abe’s arm will remain with me forever. I recently attended a luncheon. After the Pledge of Allegiance
an officer on the state level began the inspiration. She told us the
The Singles Scene Column © story of her visit with her mother-in-law last month as Hospice
began providing services for the 92 year old. Her husband
engaged his mother in conversation and said to her that she had
The 2023 Singles Market is Lives with Family: What is their age? Occupation? Cultural lived a good life. His mother responded, “No, I have not lived
a good life” and she was serious. What words do you impart if
HOT! position? Why do they live with family? Is it a home with an east someone makes such a statement? Your natural inclination is to
wing? Or the basement?
By Kelly Leary, M.S., offer encouragement. I do not believe any of us wants to reach
CEO/Matchmaker Lives with a Roommate: What is their age? Why? How? Who? the age of 92 and have regrets. We have the power to change our
“You’re so vain. I bet you What? When? Have fun exploring this topic as some have valid future. Now is the time to resolve to make changes. We tend to
think this song is about reasons and remain age appropriate while others are not. I come procrastinate and say that we will get to it tomorrow. Tomorrow
you.”— Carly Simon right out and ask this in my interviews, but if you do it you will turns into months and months into years and years into decades.
look intrusive. Only the matchmaker can ask this type of question. We have a positive inner voice and a negative inner voice. Listen
Happy New Year Everyone! to the positive voice as we start a new year and a new decade.
Isn’t it remarkable how New Construction: Usually upscale, up-to-date, and financially You may see yourself as a confused person but a small child
quickly time flies with each FIT. This person knows what they want and is customizing it to
passing year? Tis’ another suit their needs. They may be demanding and uncompromising. will see you as a mentor and a senior citizen at a nursing home
golden opportunity to get They may be rigid in and out of the bedroom. They may be worth will see you as a lifeline. You are a body of work that is never
it right! I hope everyone is it though! I would not rule this out. finished. It is cumulative.
setting up their vision boards “For true happiness, look within yourself. It is difficult to
and manifesting an ideal and Old Construction: Worth the wait. Look for a solid foundation. be happy if you rely on outside sources”. I read these words of
dreamy year ahead. January is the BEST month on the calendar to Choose cement over wood. Look for good lines and structure. Keith D. Harrell in a book of quotes for positive thinking. Too
make changes. Hold your ground this year. Don’t let the time slip Don’t be fooled by an attractive outward appearance and forgo many of us do think that our happiness is derived from a loved
away from you--just don’t. You will thank me later for this gentle the inspection! Get a second and third opinion and listen to your
nudge. For those of you that are single and frustrated, know that the gut. Seek out the opinion of a true friend when in doubt. one or an event or a material thing. Then we are disappointed
Florida market is booming--and I’m not talking about Real Estate. when our expectations are not met. Uncle Abe never spoke
Waterfront vs. Western Lifestyle: This is a matter of preference. about his life in the concentration camp. In times of adversity
There is a Singles Tsunami going on right before our eyes~~and it Do you prefer the mountains or the ocean? You can also have the our core beliefs sustain us. Through literature and movies, we
has been going on for months. Thousands of singles have moved to best of both worlds too--if you date smart! Wouldn’t it be nice to have some insight into such an existence. In one of my Bible
our local area in the last couple of years, former dynamic duos have have a partner with a home in two zip codes? study classes we read the textbook, “These Stones Will Shout”
broken up, and countless others have given up on online dating for by Mark Link, SJ. It contains the story of a World War II fugitive
good. ONLINE DATING took an even bigger nose dive in the This is a tough market and let’s face it, when you date you are
last three years. It is more absurd than ever before. It is Babylon selling yourself. Hopefully, you don’t have to try too hard. Don’t from the Nazis who left a testimony of his beliefs inscribed in
meets the Wild West of dating and it is destroying norms and over sell. Believe in yourself. Move with care and kindness at the cellar wall where he was hiding. The inscription read,
the modern dating culture in multiple ways. Men and women your center and you will never lose.
are not enjoying the transition and loss of general dating “I believe in the sun
decorum. THIS is why matchmaking has become so popular. Welcome to the dating boom in Florida--offline-in REAL LIFE! even when it is not shining.
The future is bright. I believe in love
MATCHMAKING has become more attractive to quality even when I do not feel it.
singles as a traditional approach to expanding your social circle Thank you for sharing your time with me again today. Thank
wisely. Consider these basic facts as you move towards your you to my publisher for noticing my talent (as a matchmaker I believe in God
decision to hire a matchmaker. Would you prefer a matchmaker and writer) so many years ago. This paper is about sharing even when He is silent.”
who is LOCALLY established? Does your matchmaker have an good news with our readers in our communities. Do tell your
ACTUAL OFFICE or does she want to meet you out in public? friends. Keep it simple, folks. We all need something FUN A dear friend of mine presented me with a framed needlepoint
Would a REAL matchmaker seek to enroll you on a zoom or a to talk about and something to look forward to in 2023. with the inscription in 1987 and I have had it on my dresser ever
phone call? Doesn’t that miss the point? We meet all of our clients Together--anything is possible. since where I read it every morning. Above it she added a cloud
in our office in-person. Our private practice is centrally located with the smiling sun behind it. I wish you all a 2023 filled with
to all of you (NOT out of state) right on PGA BOULEVARD. Our hotlines do blow up in January, so call soon to beat the rush!
We have been here for ten amazing years and counting and we We can’t wait to here your story! the resolve to make the changes that will bring true happiness
could not be happier. We have much more love to share too--in from within.
the coming year. We continue to learn and grow and change, for XOXO, Kelly Until next month…
ourselves and for you. It is an honor to serve all of you, sincerely. James A. Cioffi, Editor
#LoveOffline #DateLocal #SecretsSafeHere #TellYourFriends james@jcclaw.com
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